A bad day at work.
As I am sitting here typing this, I have tears in my eyes which has almost dried. I am pretty sure by the time I reach next few paragraphs, it will be converted into a smile.
While I let myself cry out loud on some unpleasant days, I also make sure I analyse the situation, and apply this formula of 5. Just one simple question – Does this gonna effect you 5 years down the line??? If yes, work on it and give your best to make things work in your favor. If not, shut the f*ck off and smile. No point in shedding tears and ruining your eye makeup for some people who doesn’t even care. Simple.
While you are sad, it’s so important to talk to yourself and analyse. To calm yourself and clear your mind. Because trust me, if you keep depending on a person that he/she will cheer you up every damn time you are upset. Honey, you will be even more upset one day.
Why I am telling you all this is because is to let you guys know how important it is to maintain this one strong relationship with that one person who is ALWAYS with you in all your pain, sorrow, happiness, achievements, failures every little things you do in your life. For example right now, while reading this, you have that one person with you. Who??? Yourself.
Some might find it funny. But like seriously, think about it. Were your parents by your side in ALL your pain??? I agree they are, in most of them. But come on, they are human beings too. They can’t be with you 24*7. Siblings?? friends??? Spouse(#besthubby)??? No…!!!! But you were there. Your heart, brain and of course your soul were with you. Still this relationship called ‘Self love’ is so underrated
Often self love is misinterpreted as selfishness, being self obsessed, self centric. No matter what they call it. I say it is a necessity to breath and live this one time offer called – life.
I often see ladies who transform so much post marriage that they are as if reborn. No offense, I know how dedicated we must be to play that role of a wife/mother/daughter in law. To work towards well being of your new family. I admire that. But I would admire you more if you not forget your best friend – You. Because I have heard, seen, experienced that losing yourself is the biggest loss. As much as you love falling in love with yourself, you will regret losing yourself.
Don’t agree??? Try it by yourself. 🙂
How to love one self???
Well, this is something I can’t really make a list and give you. This is something you should cultivate within yourselves. Trust me when you fall in love with yourself, your world will be a happiest one. Your self confidence and esteem are boosted by this relationship.
I can tell you some tried and tested tips by me which might help you feel this kind of love.
No, I am not starting with ‘retail therapy’. Honestly, retail therapy is something I adore.(you guys know that shopaholic side of mine.) But the happiness you get by the things you buy lasts for shorter span. This helps you for a while but not forever. Buying stuffs and pampering yourself is considered as brownie points but not the ultimate trophy.
Umm.. what else can we do to fall in love with that super sincere person of yours???
Let’s start with basic. Creator of this world has created us uniquely. With unique features, unique souls. There should be some reason behind it. Don’t you think so??? Else he would have just done – Ctrl+a Ctrl+c Ctrl+v. Everyone look alike. Dah…!!! Then why do we not respect his decision. And accept ourselves completely. When I say ‘completely’ both bad as well as good. Strengths and weaknesses.
There are zillions of people out there. Not everyone is famous or successful and point to remember is not everyone is happy either. It’s totally ok to have flaws or weaknesses. As the famous dialogue from the famous series goes, “Wear your weakness like your armour. It can never be used to hurt you”. Flaunt your flaws honey. Be happy.
I see girls feeling bad about their curves. Some girls feel bad that don’t have any. Some wish for straight hair some for curly ones. Some are not happy with their skin condition/tone, many things. All thanks to the world who keeps on criticizing. But let me tell you, it is not important how the world sees us, what are the compliments we get or not get. What is important is, how do you think of yourself. I know I am not the ultimate beauty of the world. But in my world, I am. I am the princess of my own dream land. Not just a princess with great wardrobe, a warrior princess with a greater heart. So, what are you, through your eyes???
Be gentle with yourself.
Everyone does mistakes. We all do. But hello, life doesn’t comes with a user manual either..!!! Make mistakes, explore… At least you will have something to say to your grand kids. Else you will bore them to hell saying – I used to wake up, go to work, pay my bills (kids are snoring…!!!!)
When you make mistakes, when you fail, let yourself cry. Let yourself calm down. DO NOT make any decisionwhile you are emotionally high. Especially the decision which might destroy you. Never. Would you do that to a small kid who just did a mistake??? No…! Then why you???
Spend time with yourself.
What I happily called ‘Me Time’. Be comfortable with doing things alone. It might be getting a spa done at home, going for shopping alone, or asking yourself out for dinner date or a movie, walk to a garden, a solo ride or as simple as sitting idle for sometime in a day. This will make you realise what’s happening inside you. Inside your brain. How content and happy you are, what you need in life to be happy, who you really are.
Talk to yourself.
Yes I am serious. How?? Just the way you talk to the people you love and care about. The way you ask them and make sure they are fine. Just make sure you ask yourself too. Sounds simpler???
See yourself from the eyes of someone who loves you.
Best example I can give is parents, siblings(especially a sister. Because they are emotionally connected way more than a brother.) and of course through the eyes of your pets. Because especially for your pets, you are the ONLY world. Just think how much you are meant to them. For parents and sister, you are the ultimate treasure. When you have so much love to enjoy, is it really worth spending even a single second on opinion of those people who doesn’t even know you???
This we realise with time. Setting a healthy boundary to our emotions is mandatory. When we channel our emotions to a direction or towards a wrong person. We will be on a losing side, sooner or later. Because loving beyond ego is absolutely ok. But loving beyond your self respect is like letting yourself down. That too for nothing…!!! Na not a good sign for self love. Hence, make sure on whom you spend your time and emotions. This will keep yourself safe and happy in the long run.
Self learning and Self improvement.
There is always(read it twice) scope for improvement for everyone of us in whatever we do. Accepting ones mistakes, giving your best to improve and slowly excel will definitely make you fall for yourselves even more. This will make yourself proud and happier.
Nurture a Hobby.
Be it singing(Ahh you don’t have to be a great singer with sweetest voice, I am talking about hobby, not about participating in some singing competition. haha), dancing, writing, story telling, painting, craft and so on and on. Whatever it might be. Just make sure you do it frequently. Just to keep your self happy and to feel alive.
Instead of searching for love outside, fall in love with yourself because that’s the key to happiness…!!!