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This is Why We Should Appreciate This Mom Who Appreciated Her Son, For Scoring 60% In Board Exams

We live in a society where most of the things have some standards already set. Nobody knows who did it, but most of us blindly just follow. As simple as a birth of a baby. “Raja beta hona chahiye” (It should be a darling prince). Be it beauty – where skin colour is the primary factor to be judged by, education – of course the marks decide whether you are ‘smart’ or dumb etc etc. This never ending list goes on. People who live for the society (read it as live to impress the society) try their best to fit in to these standards. May be because of this, these standards still exists. I am glad it is slowly getting changed. But we are a long way to go, to completely set new generation free from these standards.

Society never spares anyone. Even for parents they have some set of standards to meet when it comes to their kids. Kids should be well behaved, should score good marks since from preschool to graduation. Get a good job blah and blah. Parents struggle a lot to make these happen. They make sure their kids get good education and provide everything s/he needs. But unfortunately not all the parents see the world through their kids’ eyes.

‘Studies’ – definitely not a cake walk for everyone. Most of the kids struggle and put in their efforts to learn and score good marks to make their parents proud. Some are blessed with good intellect and some are not. Some love mathematics, some get fever before maths exam. Every kid is different. A kid might not be good at everything but every kid is good at something. Instead of recognising and supporting the skills he is good at, most of the parents end up making him fit in to the puzzle where he doesn’t belong.

At the end of the day, all parents want their child to live a secure life when s/he grows up. A secure job will definitely bring financial security but can’t assure the mental peace, satisfaction and happiness which one needs along the journey of life.

Every year during exam result announcements, especially for 10th and 12th boards, we always read or hear the sad news of students committing suicides for not getting good marks. Why do you think so??? What might have made the kid to feel ending life is more easier than continuing the life.

Like every year, this year as well I saw tweets, Facebook posts about people boasting about the percentages their kids scored (which are mostly 90 and above), I came across this post on Instagram which warmed my heart.

This post is by a mom who appreciated her son on social media (with both heart and brain), for scoring well in 10 CBSE. Nowadays children score 100/100 in most of the subjects. When I say children, there are literally bunch of students who score so well. Before I set your expectation high, let me tell you the mom I am talking about, her son for whom she is so proud of didn’t actually meet ‘good score’ as per the ‘education standards’. Yes, he has scored 60%.

Here is her post:

I can somehow listen to the judgemental aunties yelling “Is this a thing to appreciate your kid for?”.

Well Yes. Definitely Yes.

The thing I loved about this post or the thing made me happy for that kid is the fact that he has his supper supportive mom by his side. She saw him struggle. She saw him not giving up. Most importantly she appreciated him for that. She appreciated the efforts he put in. She understood that her kid is indeed like a fish who is meant to swim in the ocean. Asking him to climb a tree is not something fair for him. Isn’t it a beautiful feeling for getting appreciated for your efforts. Especially by your mom and dad???

A parent should support the hard work the child puts in. Look at the efforts more than the results. Because once you are out in the real world and you look back, you wonder where you are going to apply the algebra formulas, for which you had almost broke your head…!!!

This post by Vandana Sufia Katoch has went viral for all the right reasons. People like her are indeed pillars of progressive India. Let’s appreciate her for setting such a nice example of good parenting. We want more parents like this lady who loves her children more than society. Who is more keen to support her kid to pave his own path rather than making him to take part in the rat race. We want more parents like her who appreciate the good virtues in kid rather than the numbers they score on their score cards.

Instead of making kids run in the race, let them fly freely. Be the wind beneath their wings.

Five Bollywood Female Characters to Get Inspired From, On This Women’s Day

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‘Women’s Day’ is just around the corner. While the world starts praising the ‘role’ of a woman in their lives, I have this post up, where I am praising the ‘roles’ of some women in Bollywood movies which have inspired me to be the best version of myself.

You know I am a Bollywood fan. Being one, I can’t miss the fact that there are some movies which have inspired to be stronger, independent and of course prettier version of myself. I think this is the right time to share my list of favorite female characters of Bollywood.

I know there are plenty of characters who are worth idealizing, here are the five whom I love for inspiring me. I am sure even you will agree to my point if you have already watched them if not, grab a bucket of popcorn and watch them this weekend.

Shashi from the movie – English Vinglish

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Ok this is my small tribute to the star whom we lost last week – Sridevi. Even though she has acted in plenty of films in Bollywood, this will always be my favorite.

Which is the most hectic job you can imagine??? Doctor??? Army??? Cook?? umm teacher??? Na.. its being a mother or a home maker. Yes. Think about it. It’s 24 * 7 job. Alll through out the year. No holidays. You can’t take leaves. No payment. Unfortunately the worst part is, not all of those who opt for this job happily, do not even get the appreciation or credit which they deserve at the end of the day. Disheartening isn’t it??? Well, this is the story of most of the middle class ‘home makers’.

The movie ‘English Vinglish’ is based on these similar lines. Shashi – a beautiful mommy of two kids. Along with managing all household works, Shashi holds a tiny catering business where she prepares this Indian sweet – ‘laddu’. Her working husband and her daughter doesn’t really care or respect what she is doing. Her daughter treats her mom so badly (at some point of time you feel like slapping her while watching the movie) just because mom doesn’t know to speak English. As most of the people get judged by the way they talk in English. #Sad It’s just a language guys. Language is been invented to communicate what you feel. not to make someone feel bad.

But, Shashi goes to USA to attend her niece’s wedding. That’s where her life changes. She happened to join ‘English speaking’ class. The struggle to manage class timings in spite of managing all the marriage arrangements, her dedication, her innocence will melt your heart..

Due to some unexpected things in the house, Shashi misses her final exam of her class. But yet she manages to score more than anyone else in the class. How?? Well, watch the movie to know. Her transformation from being an under confident Indian woman to a confident woman is worth the watch.

Thank you Sridevi for making Shashi alive and inspiring tons of ladies to realise that there is nothing impossible if you have the willpower to do it, through ‘English Vinglish’.

2. Rani from the movie Queen:

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This is one of my favorite.

So the world is been divided into 2 categories of women. One – who want to be independent and doesn’t really want to get into this thing called ‘marriage’. The other –  all they can dream about is their marriage. I am not saying it’s bad, but I don’t belong to that category at least.

So, our heroine Rani belongs to the later one. She is happy that she is getting married to her ‘prince charm’. She has everything planned. From her marriage dress to her honeymoon tickets. Paris – is where she is flying to, post her marriage.

Well, life is about expecting the unexpected. Right??? Her ‘Price charm’ calls off the wedding on her ‘big day’. Because he thinks she is not of his ‘type’.

Haww… Calling off a marriage – Breaking news for all those gossip aunties…!!! Heart broken bride and her family. In India at least, ‘marriage’ is like a licence to live life in the ‘society’. If you are not married, ahhh forget about leading a ‘peaceful’ life here.

But, Rani decides to go on honeymoon. Alone. Instead of cribbing on her misfortune, she chooses to face it.

Let me skip her stay in France because I can’t really pen down all those beautiful moments of hers, where she transforms into a beautiful butterfly from a cocoon.

You know what will make you watch this movie for??? When she comes back to India – her ‘prince charm’ who has realised whom he has lost, proposes to her for marriage ‘again’. But Rani refuses.

Because after so many struggles she has found her own self. Whom she refuses to lose for any one’s sake.

That’s beautiful. Because losing oneself while loving others is the worst thing to happen.

3. Geet from the movie Jab We Met

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Being strong, independent is something necessary. But you know what else is??? Being silly, crazy and dare to do what you like rather than what society likes you to be.

Geeth from Jab We Met thought me – sometimes all you need is those 2 minutes of craziness to change your entire life for good.

She chooses to run away from home with her friend, to meet and marry the guy she loves. (Read the line she loves twice. Because she is not really sure whether he feels the same and whether  will come to get her or not. Umm I already told you, she is crazy.)

She says this to her friend before leaving home – “I don’t know whether I will be happy with him or not. But what makes me happy is that, whatever is happening is because of ‘my’ choice not because of my parents’ choice. So I will be happy. I don’t want to regret someday that I had a chance to run away but I didn’t. Instead I will be happy that at least I dared to do so.”

Amazingly true…!!! This made me also believe – I don’t want to live or die with any  regrets.

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Anddd my mosttt favourite dialogue of Bollywood -“Mai Apni Favorite hoon” (I am my favourite). The way she loves herself, will make you fall in love with yourself all over again. Trust me on this.

Whether Geeth meets her guy, whether she gets married to him?? Watch the movie. I am sure you will love the movie. I can at least watch this movie for zillion times without getting bored.

4. Naina from Ye Jawani Hai Deewani

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An introvert, topper of the class, umm to make simple – a boring gal, opts to go out on a trip with her class’ ‘last benchers’ to explore life. During the journey she finds her true self and also finds her ‘prince charm’. The guy she falls in love, is passionate about what he does – travelling. On the last day of their trip, Naina decides to confess to him about how she feels for him. Bad timing huun. By that time, he receives this job letter where he gets to travel and gets paid for it. Do you think he will leave that opportunity??? Na. Also he doesn’t even know how Naina feels for him. So he chooses to go and get that job.

Naina, unlike any ‘typical’ Bollywood heroine, chooses not to confess her love. She lets him go, go and live his dream. She completes her degree and achieves her dream of being a doctor.

Life is full of surprises. They meet again. This time, even the guy falls in love. But Naina knows he can’t settle down at one place because his job doesn’t allows him to do so. What made me appreciate Naina, unlike any other gal – she refuses to leave her dream and go with him. She lets him go again, even though she loves him so much. At the end, he leaves his job to settle down with love of his life – Naina.

Determined Naina won my heart. You go gal…!!!

As most of gals sacrifice everything just to ‘settle down’ with their ‘prince charm’. Is that really worth doing??? May be in the beginning yes with all those new changes in life, you do feel right. But how about 10-15 years later??? Will you be still happy with your decision??? Choose your path wisely gal.

 5. Meera from the movie NH10

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I had this phobia of darkness. It was nothing less than a nightmare for me to go out in the dark even to watch starts. Yes I am serious. I used to grab my grandma’s hands while she used to take me out to show the stars. These phobias I know..!!!

But, this one movie changed my perception about darkness. It made me fear the darkness inside a human than the darkness outside.

Meera – a modern, working woman from Delhi, lives with love of her life – her husband. On their anniversary they choose to spend their day at a place far away from the city. They take a road trip. But they get into a big mess in the middle of the road. So messy that she loses her husband due to some evil people.

Her battles to save her husband’s life and when she fails I am sure your eyes will be moist just like mine.

But story doesn’t ends there. Meera continues to fight.

The movie is about that one messy night in the life of Meera. She fights all the difficulties and how she manages to take her revenge by early morning is thrilling. This will definitely make you realise, we women, are more than what we believe we are. We have immense strength inside us. People say we are physically weaker than men. But mentally, we are much much stronger than any man out there. Watch this movie to boost that inner you.

 

So, these are the five Bollywood female characters who has inspired me the most.

What about you??? Do you have any of your favorite ones??? I am sure you do.

Share their names & movie name below in the comments section. So that I and some other beautiful souls can watch and get inspired…!!!