This is Why We Should Appreciate This Mom Who Appreciated Her Son, For Scoring 60% In Board Exams

We live in a society where most of the things have some standards already set. Nobody knows who did it, but most of us blindly just follow. As simple as a birth of a baby. “Raja beta hona chahiye” (It should be a darling prince). Be it beauty – where skin colour is the primary factor to be judged by, education – of course the marks decide whether you are ‘smart’ or dumb etc etc. This never ending list goes on. People who live for the society (read it as live to impress the society) try their best to fit in to these standards. May be because of this, these standards still exists. I am glad it is slowly getting changed. But we are a long way to go, to completely set new generation free from these standards.

Society never spares anyone. Even for parents they have some set of standards to meet when it comes to their kids. Kids should be well behaved, should score good marks since from preschool to graduation. Get a good job blah and blah. Parents struggle a lot to make these happen. They make sure their kids get good education and provide everything s/he needs. But unfortunately not all the parents see the world through their kids’ eyes.

‘Studies’ – definitely not a cake walk for everyone. Most of the kids struggle and put in their efforts to learn and score good marks to make their parents proud. Some are blessed with good intellect and some are not. Some love mathematics, some get fever before maths exam. Every kid is different. A kid might not be good at everything but every kid is good at something. Instead of recognising and supporting the skills he is good at, most of the parents end up making him fit in to the puzzle where he doesn’t belong.

At the end of the day, all parents want their child to live a secure life when s/he grows up. A secure job will definitely bring financial security but can’t assure the mental peace, satisfaction and happiness which one needs along the journey of life.

Every year during exam result announcements, especially for 10th and 12th boards, we always read or hear the sad news of students committing suicides for not getting good marks. Why do you think so??? What might have made the kid to feel ending life is more easier than continuing the life.

Like every year, this year as well I saw tweets, Facebook posts about people boasting about the percentages their kids scored (which are mostly 90 and above), I came across this post on Instagram which warmed my heart.

This post is by a mom who appreciated her son on social media (with both heart and brain), for scoring well in 10 CBSE. Nowadays children score 100/100 in most of the subjects. When I say children, there are literally bunch of students who score so well. Before I set your expectation high, let me tell you the mom I am talking about, her son for whom she is so proud of didn’t actually meet ‘good score’ as per the ‘education standards’. Yes, he has scored 60%.

Here is her post:

I can somehow listen to the judgemental aunties yelling “Is this a thing to appreciate your kid for?”.

Well Yes. Definitely Yes.

The thing I loved about this post or the thing made me happy for that kid is the fact that he has his supper supportive mom by his side. She saw him struggle. She saw him not giving up. Most importantly she appreciated him for that. She appreciated the efforts he put in. She understood that her kid is indeed like a fish who is meant to swim in the ocean. Asking him to climb a tree is not something fair for him. Isn’t it a beautiful feeling for getting appreciated for your efforts. Especially by your mom and dad???

A parent should support the hard work the child puts in. Look at the efforts more than the results. Because once you are out in the real world and you look back, you wonder where you are going to apply the algebra formulas, for which you had almost broke your head…!!!

This post by Vandana Sufia Katoch has went viral for all the right reasons. People like her are indeed pillars of progressive India. Let’s appreciate her for setting such a nice example of good parenting. We want more parents like this lady who loves her children more than society. Who is more keen to support her kid to pave his own path rather than making him to take part in the rat race. We want more parents like her who appreciate the good virtues in kid rather than the numbers they score on their score cards.

Instead of making kids run in the race, let them fly freely. Be the wind beneath their wings.

Fun Friday : 5 Random Questions – Part 21

I know, I know, it’s been a long time you have heard from me on Mygirlypedia. I was just in my Panda mode – doing nothing, lost in my own world.

Well the most favorite day of the week is here. So I am back in the ‘form’.

Nowadays, most of us are addicted to one electronic gadget – cell phone. In fact, we don’t consider it as a separate gadget anymore. It has taken such a prominent place in our day to day life that, we have almost considered it as a part of our body. (Trust me for some. it is.)

Since most of us have social media accounts(as important as having an adhaar card). Let me just ask 5 random questions related to social media sites today.

Ready???

What is the last post on your Facebook?

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This is the petition I signed recently. This is one inhuman act done by some psycho, insane creatures(who are not fit to be called humans.) buried this innocent dog alive.

An innocent dog was sleeping on the side of the road of Agra(city where the world famous, ‘symbol of love’ Taj Mahal exists). People who were constructing the road, instead of waking the dog up, poured hot coal tar on it and crushed the dog with road roller….!!!! Humanity died pathetically, yet again.

In order to request for the maximum punishment for this psychopaths, I would urge you to sign it too.

When you are blessed with a voice, raise it to help a voiceless. 

 

What is the last picture you have uploaded on Instagram, that was clicked by you???

This picture is of the mannequins I came across while shopping in a mall here in Pune. I loved how creatively they were dressed and placed. ‘Flowers on their mind'(like literally…!!!)

What’s your last tweet is all about???

I am not much active on Twitter. But when I feel I should be a part of some important ‘twitter hashtags for a cause’, I do tweet. So, as you guys know I am from Karnataka. I had plans of shifting to Bengaluru. But this new law by BBMPCOMM, people are allowed to pet only one dog per home. Like seriously??? They are asking to choose one from many children. Abandon the rest. So I tweeted my views to support #NotWithoutMyDog

What’s the last what’s app message sent by you, right now???

I use smiles a lot. So this is the last message sent by me to my baby sissy.

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What’s your WhatsApp status??? Umm I am not talking about the one which lasts for 24 hours. The general status.

Its says – “I Believe in Karma”.

What about you???

I hope you have a great weekend ahead…!!!!

What is True Love According to You???

Valentine’s day haan…?? A day of celebration of most precious feeling – love…

What is love according to you…???

Updating social media with love quotes, pictures with your partner and using hash tags like #sweetheart #loveher #lovehim na.. no…

Going to posh restaurants to dine, na.

The great lovers like Romeo-Juliet, Heer-Ranja , Salim-Anarkali etc didn’t even had a social media account to ‘publish’ their love. They didn’t had Instagram to use the hash tags for their #truelove. But till date they and their love still remains with us. why??? Because of the purity… because of loyalty… Because of the commitment… so much so that they died for the sake of that one pure feeling called love. Which our ‘Tinder’ generation hardly understands.

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For me,

Love is not only a beautiful feeling… It’s mutual admiration, care and respect…

Love is commitment… Commitment to be by each other’s side till death makes us apart…

Love is a promise… I’m not talking about promise to take care of each others hearts… Na… We are humans. We tend to make mistakes. Despite these mistakes and heart breaks, a promise that we will forgive each other’s mistakes and never leave each other alone.

A promise that we will bring smiles on each other’s faces when either of them needs one.

A respect… A respect to partner and the relationship. Respect by not hesitating to shout out loud to the world that he or she is yours. Giving them respect and making sure they are respected and treated well by others too.

Love is friendship. You can hurt your lover, you can get bored by them. But friendship, na you neither hurt them nor you get bored.

Love is growing old together….

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I really feel love is where my soul can be at peace. It’s a home for my soul. Where I can be what I am… Without having to be afraid of getting judged.

I know you must be thinking that I’m being unrealistic or impractical. Sometimes, even I laugh at myself. I laugh because of my Hopeless hope for that one true love. When I almost give up on my beliefs, I always end up reading or meeting some couples who  make me believe that love still exists.

I have seen old couple, who died with a time gap of a day or so. I mean can you imagine how much the thought of living without him or her was so strong. That passion is priceless. Passion to stay loyal.

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When we are talking about love, there are also people worth mentioning about. People who end their lives because of love failures, for rejections. Phewww… If the other person does not accepts your love, doesn’t admire you.. I don’t think there is any point in wasting time and definitely not wasting your life. I know rejection hurts. Cry. Even though tears are precious but it’s Ok to shed them once in a while to make our heart feel lighter. But don’t stop your heart because you felt that rejection pain. Never.

Technically, the one who rejected you lost someone who loved. You lost someone you loved and someone who didn’t love you back. So frankly, you didn’t lose much. Oh come on, we love celebrities. They don’t even know that we exist. Still we don’t kill ourselves right… Why to make someone feel like a celebrity that too when they reject you.

Always remember we can’t force someone to love us. When the time is right, right person will come to your life and stay. You will finally find happiness and feel loved. Wait for it. Because when it happens you will feel the wait was worth it.

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Love is giving. When you are truly in love, trust me at the end of the day only thing you want is the one you love to be safe and happy. Don’t agree??? Why the love of parents is considered as one of the purest forms of love??? Because they just love us… Make sure that we are safe and happy. They don’t really expect anything in return. That’s why.

Being an animal lover, I have to give you one more example by mentioning the most loyal animal, dog. You all know dog is the most loyal animal. He loves you more than he loves himself. A dog loves you. He ONLY knows to love and protect you. Even if you feed him or don’t, love him or not. Once he considers you as his master, he will never stops loving you. If he finds any danger, dog will always face it in order to protect you. Can anyone beat this kind of love..???

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Love is everywhere. Not just in the month of Feb, but all throughout the year. You just need to acknowledge that.

Celebrate love every moment… Be it love of parents, siblings, pets, friends, partners… Celebrate it… Enjoy it… Remember, everyone has this unlimited source of love to serve. Spread your love and kindness to the world. Because more than technology and money world needs love and peace.

This valentine, be a donor of love… Not a beggar…. Love without expectation… Trust me, universe will make sure much more love comes your way…

 

You Don’t Really Need A Valentine To Make The Day Special

Valentine’s day… Don’t you think it’s overrated??!

Even though couples who genuinely love each other makes me happy about this day of celebration, couples who ‘announce’ their love and share their ‘private’ pictures on social media with mushy mushy hash tags make me feel annoyed about this day.

I know how it feels to be single on this day. All thanks to couples who are ‘desperate’ to prove to the world that they are ‘madly’ in love. All I understand out of their effort is ‘madly’.

Even I used to feel bad few years ago that I don’t have one to make my day ‘special’, I’m sure most of the gals go through this phase. Especially those who stay away from home, whose roommates leave them alone as they have to be with their #sweetheart. Now that I’m out of it, thought sharing my views about this much hyped day.

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I bet – open your Facebook and Instagram page on valentine’s day. Most of the account’s display picture will have two members. I mean with their #soulmate. Guys, it’s your own social media account, not any joint account that it requires both of your pictures.

Then comes the flood of hash tags. #besthubby #bestwifey phewww I’m sure most of them must be silently crying inside for being with their #mineforever

So in one statement – Not everyone who is single is lonely… Not everyone who is taken is in love…

If you are a happy single like me… Cheers to that happiness and freedom…

So, happy singles, if you are still figuring out how to skip this day comfortably, here are some ideas to make ‘the day of love’ even more comfortable…

Gift Yourself…

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You know what’s the best part of gifting your own self??? You don’t have to spend time thinking what to gift… Whether they will like it or not… 🤔 what if they don’t… Blah and blah and blah..

You know what you want. Let me make it even more easier. Open online shopping sites. Open your wish list. Pick a random item and buy it. Because darling, you are totally worth it.

Have any single friend???

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Nothing more fun than two friends bit*hing and Making fun of those social media couples with tons of cozy pictures and cheesy quotes. Come on I’m not being mean here. They chose to post their pictures on public forums and we chose to ‘comment’.

PS: This one of my favorite scenes from my most favorite series F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

Spend the day with the one who loves you

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Even if a person is a criminal, I’m sure there will be at least one person who loves him genuinely. His mom. Not everyone of us have these precious persons in our lives – parents and siblings. If you have one don’t forget to make them feel special. It’s time to admire the beauty of love they share.

Spend the day with furry friends

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I feel peaceful when I’m with animals. They are a great example for true love. Spend your time with them.

If you are not an animal lover, it’s time to interact with one.

Oh come on, I’m sick of listening to people giving excuses like – when I was a kid, a dog had bit me, a cat had scratched me. Hello, even when I’m an adult, people hurt me. Shouldn’t I be scared of people??? Well according to your logic yes but Im not.

Animals do those things as their self protection not because they want to hurt you. Spend time gaining their trust and love. Dude, once you earn it, the validity lasts till the lifetime. Unlike some humans.

Spread love to those who are in need

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There are so many people out there who need love and care.

Didn’t get it??? I’m talking about orphans who never got a chance to feel the love of a family.

I’m talking about old age home. Old parents who spent their lives loving their children. But unfortunately who abandoned them.

Go their. Spend some time. Your presence will be a biggest present for them. Most importantly you will feel proud for being a great human.

Dress up

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Most of the men think that we gals dress up for them. Sorry… We dress up because we like it. We don’t spend our time getting ready to impress a guy who can’t even differentiate between a baby pink and dark pink.

Dress up. Wear that favorite dress of yours. Experiment with makeup. Enjoy yourself.

Take yourself to a movie or a dinner date

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Who said only ‘happy’ couples can make singles jealous. Time to make them jealous.

Dress up (or don’t to make even more fun. Gals who spent ages to get dressed up should think ‘she is so careless. I miss those days of being single’. Haha) take yourself out for a movie or for a dinner. I’m sure there will lot of couples out their giggling. Be happy and confident. Show them what being a happy and independent singles is all about. Trust me, many of the gals will feel jealous of you. Haha

Eat, Sleep and Repeat

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Honey there are so many perks of being single. First and foremost – Freedom. Freedom to be your own self, freedom to eat what you want because you don’t have to look hot and perfect for your guy, freedom to sleep because you don’t have to be on call all the time. Ugh no matter how beautiful or boring the conversation might be, I can’t compromise with my sleep. Can you??! If you agree with me celebrate the freedom on this day. It’s worth celebrating.

 

Instead of waiting for that perfect someone to come and make you happy, do what makes YOU perfectly happy…!!! 

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Happy Valentine’s day gal…!!! 

Don’t Compare Your Chapter 1 to Someone Else’s Last

Hey my beautiful reader,

How’s was your Saturday??? What are your plans for Sunday???

Some of you might be partying, some of you might be out in the rain with friends, some might be enjoying staying at home (like me), some might not be so happy staying at home… There are definitely some, who constantly check their social media updates and gets sad/worried… Ummm let me explain you more…

Private life’ is called so because it meant to be private.  Nowadays people have actually forgotten that we can actually eat at a restaurant without ‘checking in’  on social media. Watching movie at theater needs tickets and of course a bucket full of popcorn, not a Facebook update.

You know what is worst on social media, ‘honeymoon photos’. **like seriously ** and how can I not mention those hash tags #besthubbyintheworld (sorry, was there any competition??),  #myfavoritehubby (ahem…  How many do you have???)  #blessedToBeYourWife/hubby (is your God added in your Facebook account??? You can thank him off the social media too. )  *drama everywhere *

Unfortunately, many people believe what they see on social media. They tend to compare their lives with theirs. They think those with frequent check-ins are having ‘happening life’. Some do think that the one with above hash tags are actually the best couple.

No…!!!  What you see is only the best poses, best clicks. No body puts up sad stories, #quarrelDiaries..  Na..  No one…  No one posts how much did they spend at those fancy restaurants. They don’t say that they are bankrupt on any of the medias.

I have been there, done that. But, trust me I came across certain scenarios where I have heard the ‘behind the stories’  of those ‘blessed to have you’  couples. That was the time I got to know how fake people are on social medias.

If you are one among those, who is comparing your life with others, I have a msg for you. This is my favorite one.

New York is 3 hours ahead of California but it does not mean that California is slow, or that New York is fast. Both are  working based on their own “Time Zone.”

Some one is still single. Someone got married and ‘waited’ 10 years before having a child. There is another who had a baby within a year of marriage.

Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before securing a good job; and there is another who graduated at 27 and secured employment immediately !

Someone became CEO at 25 and died at 50 while another became a CEO at 50 and lived to 90 years. 

Everyone works based on their ‘Time Zone’,

People can have things worked out only according to their pace.

Work in your “time zone”.

Your Colleagues, friends, younger ones might “seem” to go ahead of you.

May be some might “seem” behind you.

Everyone is in this world running their own race on their own lane in their own time. God has a different plan for everybody.Time is the difference. Obama retires at 55, Trump resumes at 70

Don’t envy them or mock them, it’s their ‘Time Zone.’ 

You are in yours!

Hold on, be strong, and stay true to yourself. All things shall work together for your good. 

You’re not late … You are not early … you’re very much On time!😊👍stay blessed.

You Are In Your Time Zone….!!! 

Tomorrow is not promised. You never know where everyone is heading to. You might be comparing your first chapter with last chapter of others.
Everyone is blessed with different lives. No point in comparing or being replica of someone. Instead be original. Enjoy what you have. I am sure there are plenty who are willing to live your life.

With this I remember one more story.

Once God announced that people can exchange their sorrows with someone else’s sorrows. So he asked them to keep their sorrows on a table. When people looked at the sorrows for an exchange, everyone ended up picking their own sorrows.!!! 

You never know what sorrows they are hiding behind those 500+ liked photos.

Unfortunately, most of the sorrows are self made. If you want to go and have food like them???  Go… You don’t need someone to hold your hand and make you eat. Be your own best friend. Treat yourself with great food.

As per as different ‘life events’  are concerned, when the time is right, everything will be right.

Enjoy your life. Accept the challenges because they are making you stronger. Be thankful for the tough times because they are letting you know who really cares.

Stay happy…  We have only one life to live… Live it like a Queen…  Or like the one ‘who doesn’t care, who the Queen is’…  💋