Heard About Self Love? Here is How You Can Fall In Love With Yourself

A bad day at work.

As I am sitting here typing this, I have tears in my eyes which has almost dried. I am pretty sure by the time I reach next few paragraphs, it will be converted into a smile.

While I let myself cry out loud on some unpleasant days, I also make sure I analyse the situation, and apply this formula of 5. Just one simple question – Does this gonna effect you 5 years down the line??? If yes, work on it and give your best to make things work in your favor. If not, shut the f*ck off and smile. No point in shedding tears and ruining your eye makeup for some people who doesn’t even care. Simple.

While you are sad, it’s so important to talk to yourself and analyse. To calm yourself and clear your mind. Because trust me, if you keep depending on a person that he/she will cheer you up every damn time you are upset. Honey, you will be even more upset one day.

Why I am telling you all this is because is to let you guys know how important it is to maintain this one strong relationship with that one person who is ALWAYS with you in all your pain, sorrow, happiness, achievements, failures every little things you do in your life. For example right now, while reading this, you have that one person with you. Who??? Yourself.

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Some might find it funny. But like seriously, think about it. Were your parents by your side in ALL your pain??? I agree they are, in most of them. But come on, they are human beings too. They can’t be with you 24*7. Siblings?? friends??? Spouse(#besthubby)??? No…!!!! But you were there. Your heart, brain and of course your soul were with you. Still this relationship called ‘Self love’ is so underrated

Often self love is misinterpreted as selfishness, being self obsessed, self centric. No matter what they call it. I say it is a necessity to breath and live this one time offer called – life.

I often see ladies who transform so much post marriage that they are as if reborn. No offense, I know how dedicated we must be to play that role of a wife/mother/daughter in law. To work towards well being of your new family. I admire that. But I would admire you more if you not forget your best friend – You. Because I have heard, seen, experienced that losing yourself is the biggest loss. As much as you love falling in love with yourself, you will regret losing yourself.

Don’t agree??? Try it by yourself. 🙂

How to love one self???

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Well, this is something I can’t really make a list and give you. This is something you should cultivate within yourselves. Trust me when you fall in love with yourself, your world will be a happiest one. Your self confidence and esteem are boosted by this relationship.

I can tell you some tried and tested tips by me which might help you feel this kind of love.

No, I am not starting with ‘retail therapy’. Honestly, retail therapy is something I adore.(you guys know that shopaholic side of mine.) But the happiness you get by the things you buy lasts for shorter span. This helps you for a while but not forever. Buying stuffs and pampering yourself is considered as brownie points but not the ultimate trophy.

Umm.. what else can we do to fall in love with that super sincere person of yours???

Accept yourself.

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Let’s start with basic. Creator of this world has created us uniquely. With unique features, unique souls. There should be some reason behind it. Don’t you think so??? Else he would have just done – Ctrl+a Ctrl+c Ctrl+v. Everyone look alike. Dah…!!! Then why do we not respect his decision. And accept ourselves completely. When I say ‘completely’ both bad as well as good. Strengths and weaknesses.
There are zillions of people out there. Not everyone is famous or successful and point to remember is not everyone is happy either. It’s totally ok to have flaws or weaknesses. As the famous dialogue from the famous series goes, “Wear your weakness like your armour. It can never be used to hurt you”. Flaunt your flaws honey. Be happy.
I see girls feeling bad about their curves. Some girls feel bad that don’t have any. Some wish for straight hair some for curly ones. Some are not happy with their skin condition/tone, many things. All thanks to the world who keeps on criticizing. But let me tell you, it is not important how the world sees us, what are the compliments we get or not get. What is important is, how do you think of yourself. I know I am not the ultimate beauty of the world. But in my world, I am. I am the princess of my own dream land. Not just a princess with great wardrobe, a warrior princess with a greater heart. So, what are you, through your eyes???

Be gentle with yourself.

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Everyone does mistakes. We all do. But hello, life doesn’t comes with a user manual either..!!! Make mistakes, explore… At least you will have something to say to your grand kids. Else you will bore them to hell saying – I used to wake up, go to work, pay my bills (kids are snoring…!!!!)
When you make mistakes, when you fail, let yourself cry. Let yourself calm down. DO NOT make any decisionwhile you are emotionally high. Especially the decision which might destroy you. Never. Would you do that to a small kid who just did a mistake??? No…! Then why you???

Spend time with yourself.

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What I happily called ‘Me Time’. Be comfortable with doing things alone. It might be getting a spa done at home, going for shopping alone, or asking yourself out for dinner date or a movie, walk to a garden, a solo ride or as simple as sitting idle for sometime in a day. This will make you realise what’s happening inside you. Inside your brain. How content and happy you are, what you need in life to be happy, who you really are.

Talk to yourself.

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Yes I am serious. How?? Just the way you talk to the people you love and care about. The way you ask them and make sure they are fine. Just make sure you ask yourself too. Sounds simpler???

See yourself from the eyes of someone who loves you.

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Best example I can give is parents, siblings(especially a sister. Because they are emotionally connected way more than a brother.) and of course through the eyes of your pets. Because especially for your pets, you are the ONLY world. Just think how much you are meant to them. For parents and sister, you are the ultimate treasure. When you have so much love to enjoy, is it really worth spending even a single second on opinion of those people who doesn’t even know you???

Set boundary.

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This we realise with time. Setting a healthy boundary to our emotions is mandatory. When we channel our emotions to a direction or towards a wrong person. We will be on a losing side, sooner or later. Because loving beyond ego is absolutely ok. But loving beyond your self respect is like letting yourself down. That too for nothing…!!! Na not a good sign for self love. Hence, make sure on whom you spend your time and emotions. This will keep yourself safe and happy in the long run.

Self learning and Self improvement.

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There is always(read it twice) scope for improvement for everyone of us in whatever we do. Accepting ones mistakes, giving your best to improve and slowly excel will definitely make you fall for yourselves even more. This will make yourself proud and happier.

Nurture a Hobby.

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Be it singing(Ahh you don’t have to be a great singer with sweetest voice, I am talking about hobby, not about participating in some singing competition. haha), dancing, writing, story telling, painting, craft and so on and on. Whatever it might be. Just make sure you do it frequently. Just to keep your self happy and to feel alive.

 

Instead of searching for love outside, fall in love with yourself because that’s the key to happiness…!!! 

 

 

The More You Sweat The More You Shine

Are you a fitness freak??? Ahh this is the word used by many (I sometimes feel it a bit of negative due to the word ‘freak’ may be). Let me re-frame, are you fitness conscious or fitness enthusiast??? What does fitness or physical activity means to you???

I personally have tried and experienced this, I’m way more happier and positive on the days I do my exercises. Especially the outdoor activities like running, trekking etc. With great company, it’s like cherry on the top.

Well, while typing this, I’m shining. How???? Remember?? The more you sweat the more you shine. Hehe I know it was a PJ. 😋

So, I’m back from cycling. Well, I did cover 18 km today(I’m sure I won’t be able to feel my legs tomorrow haha). Not bad huun. With an enthusiast buddy, who keeps cheering you up and listens to your PJs (I do crack a lot of PJs (those who are living under the rock, PJ stands for’Poor Joke’)), cycling for long distance makes look easier.

I had read somewhere that being physically active is very beneficial for your mental health. Now that I have experienced this, I just thought of sharing my views about it.

If you guys follow me on Instagram, you already know that I am a software engineer by profession. Uff a boring life I must say. Your life is kind of restricted to a corner and it starts and ends within few tiles. No matter how positive you try to think about it, this is the truth guys.

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Anyways, just to add that ‘do what you like’ flavor to my boring weekday, I try to hit gym. I was not regular till the time I realized something. Following a strict diet is not my cup of tea. I just cant eat ONLY healthy. You guys know how much I love junk food through my Fun Friday posts. But, I realized, I am way more active mentally and physically, way more enthusiastic, positive, happy when I hit gym or go trekking(which makes the most happiest and peaceful gal in the world. I love nature. ). A month ago I had almost stopped going to gym and no trekking(summer is not meant for trekking). I could actually realize my thinking pattern and my way of doing creative stuffs. Now that I have realized this, I will never ever going to miss the gym.

Along with such positive effect on you, there are multiple other benefits which you get via physical exercises. Lets see what are they..

  • Maintains Healthy Body Weight.
  • It adds the fun quotient. Lifts your mood by bursting the stress.
  • This is as basic as it sounds. Most of the people hit gym or do the physical activities to get fit by shedding extra fat. Because we all are aware what are the health issues you might get due to obesity.

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  • Reduce the risk of Cardiovascular Disease, cancer, diabetes type 2 etc.
  • Strengthen bones and muscles.
  • Improves sleep pattern.
  • Increases lifespan.
  • Energy booster.

How to be active???

When I say being physically active, doesn’t only mean getting an expensive gym membership. It can start right from where you are sitting.

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  • You can start your day with few stretchering exercises in the bed itself. This will definitely a great way to kick start the day.
  • If your hectic morning schedule do not allow you to spare time for exercise, just accommodate exercise with some other work. Like for e.g. While brushing your teeth, you can do squats and lunges.
  • Have a kid(be it human or furry)??? take your kid out for a walk. You don’t even realize your exercise, while you enjoy the ‘family time’.
  • Involve in games which need physical strength. By the end of it you are sure you are gonna sweat like a pig. haha.
  • If your work makes you sit for long, don’t. Make sure you take regular breaks. Take brief Walks.
  • While sitting on chair, you can do some little exercises like leg lifts and side bends. (I do them)

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  • You might have heard or read this for zillion times. Let me repeat it one more time – use stairs instead of lifts/elevator wherever possible.
  • If your work place is near by or going out for a quick shopping, walk instead of using vehicle. If you have a bicycle, you know what to do.

So, these are my tried and tested tips for being physically active.

Hope this helps you in modifying your life style to be healthier and happier version of yourself. Because – The More You Sweat The More You Shine both from inside out. 

 

 

 

 

Fun Friday : 5 Random Questions – Part 15

Friday…!!!! Yeahhh…!!!!

You know how much I love Fridays… I am sure even you do… Because those two magical days are most precious… Magical, not only because they are relaxing but also for the fact that they pass tooooo soon…!!! Its like…

Moooonnnndddddaaaayyyyyyyyyy

Tueessssddddaaaayyyyyyyyy

Weeedddddneesssddaayy

Thhuurrrsssddaayyyyy

Friiiyydaaaayyyy

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If you want to see my Friday face, do check on Instagram See that ‘Friday Glow’ haha…!!

For the fun Friday questions… Here are the 5 random questions…

What’s on your nails today???

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I have no nail paint on my nails today. As I have mentioned in some of my posts about nail care, its good to keep your nails free from nail paint for some days before reapplying nail paint.

When was the last time you had been to spa session???

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I don’t even remember… May be an year and half ago…!!! I’m not really a spa person but I’m thinking of booking one soon. Just to relax. How about you???

Are you on Instagram??? Name one celebrity, whose Instagram feeds inspires you or makes you happy.
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For me, its should be Jacqueline Fernandes. She is extremely charming and she has this contagious smile and positive vibe. I get inspired to get fit by her posts related to fitness too.  Plus, she is a pet lover. 10/10…!!!

Do you go to the gym???

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Umm… Sometimes I get so inspired that I do hit the gym. But I am quite irregular. #bad. But this month’s to do list – “go to gym regularly.” Do you??

What is one thing you are kind of addicted to and you want to quit it???

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I guess it should be my cell phone. I wasn’t really addicted to mobile before. But nowadays,  in the middle of something I do realise that I am yet again starring at my mobile screen..!! So, I have planned to quit it soon. Umm, I can’t say quit since mobile has become an essential part of you especially when you are staying away from home. But yes definitely I am gonna reduce using it.

Now, it’s your turn to answer the questions… Come on start..!!!

 

Why Huda Beauty Liquid Matte Lipstick in The Shade Icon is Perfect for You

You know how much I love lipsticks… I was dreaming of trying this one brand since sooo long… This brand is from Dubai… Since I don’t have any relatives or friends who live there… I was finding it difficult to buy one… Thought of buying one from Amazon… But got to know that they sell fake products…

Luckily, one of my favorite online shopping site, nykaa brought this amazing brand to India… Without any doubt, I ordered one for myself moment it was up for sale… #shopaholic

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Yep I’m talking about Huda Beauty… Famous for their amazing products… As of now we can buy their liquid matte lipsticks, eyelashes and eyeshadow pallets online in India…

They have 23 variety of shades. From intense black to n*de.

Me being a girly Girl thought of trying this one shade out. Which I can use it on daily basis. Which I can carry even to office.

Let’s get to know more about this…

Brand:

Huda Beauty

Price:

1650 INR

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Shades Available:

23 different shades available.

Shade I bought:

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Packing:

Comes in a sturdy plastic, semi transparent tube.

The outer cartoon looks like this.

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Lips design. Color of the lips is similar to the shade of the lipstick. It’s a sliding case.

Fragrance:

Smells like a butter candy.

Texture:

Creamy liquid texture.

Finishing:

Matte finish.

Color:

It’s a mixture of peach and brown. Light shade is perfect to be worked even on daily basis.

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Color pay off:

I loved the pigmentation. I just applied it on my lower lips, that too one single layer. Then pressed both upper and lower lips to apply it evenly. But that was enough to get this full coverage.

Staying power:

I usually apply a single layer. It stays on my lips for 6 to 7 hours with intake of food and drinks. After which a very faint tint remains. Which is quite good.

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Is it moisturizing:

Matte lipsticks are meant for dry finish. I have dry lips and I don’t usually try matte lipstick as it makes my lips even more dry.

But this one stands what it claims. It doesn’t dry your lips. I can’t say it adds extra moisture to lips but I can confidently say it doesn’t dry them.

Is it transfer proof:

It’s mentioned on the product that give at least 30 seconds for the product to settle down.

Which I did. But it does transfer a bit. It does not bleed as it dries of quickly, but does transfer a bit at least first few times. Which is OK for me.

 

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What I liked about Huda Beauty Matte Liquid Lipstick:

  • Multiple shades to chose from.
  • Doesn’t dry lips.
  • Little goes long way.
  • Nice pigmentation.
  • Good staying power considering the little amount of product which I apply.
  • Travel friendly packing.
  • Price might be con for some. But if I had to buy from Dubai, including shipping costs and custom charges it might have costed more. Hence I’m listing this as good point. Plus little quantity is enough so this gonna last for good amount of time.

What I didn’t like about Huda Beauty Matte Liquid Lipstick:

  • I can’t think of any.

Will I re purchase:

Yes. I love the matte finish lipsticks but never happy with the ones I had tried before on my dry lips. I’m eager to try different shades from this range.

Will I recommend:

If you have been looking for matte lipstick for your dry lips, this one is definitely a must try.

Mygirlypedia Rating : 5/5

To All Those Gals Who Are Feeling Bad After Watching Virushka’s Wedding Pictures

Dear gal,

The dreamy wedding of the year…!!! As I had posted earlier, it was in deed a fairy tale wedding. A destination wedding in Italy, between closed ones the most handsome guy married the most happy and beautiful bride.

The other day when Anushka and Virat got married, amidst all happy, heart warming wishes, lets admit most of our hearts were sad.

Sad not because the most handsome cricketer of our country is taken, because I don’t think we would get any chance to see him, forget about marriage but for feeling pity for oneself for some reasons. The pictures of their wedding had touched the nerves of our hearts which is responsible for ‘romance'(you know what I mean). Those who are already married must have regretted for not capturing such precious moments or not spending much money on a good photographer rather. Gals who are unmarried must have wished of getting married like them. At least I did. Her lehenga made me dream of my wedding. #Confession.

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The way she entered , the smile on her face, the way he looked at her and welcomed her to mandap. The little conversation of theirs. Awww it did melt our hearts.

Let me admit, then the sad story begins. Why me??? why don’t I get awesomely loving guy like Kholi.??? I have no regrets to confess that at least I did feel bad for myself and I was super jealous of Anushka. He is such a caring man…!!! #Sob

Then, I started analyzing things. What we saw was a part of story which they chose to share it with us. What about the journey they walked together??? Was it really easy for them to maintain their private and professional life. Was it really easy to protect their relationship from getting broken because of many issues like media which doesn’t really give them space, time constraints due to their work commitments etc. I don’t think so. It must be mutual effort of those two love birds which made them the winners at the end of the day. I think they do deserve the happiness.

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I happen to share everything with my sister. I know her well and I knew she would have felt the same ‘jealousy/sad’ thing. In deed it was right. Strangely when I happened to discuss this on a lighter note with some of my friends, they did it too. I was then relieved. haha.

I know most of the gals did cringe about it. So thus most of the gals ended up being sad. Thanks to social media which was flooded with the pictures of these 2 love birds. As much as we were happy for them, we were sad for ourselves.

We were somewhere getting better from that hangover, their reception pictures were all over the internet. Right from their entry, the way they chatted and danced. OMG.. Perfection…!!!

Let me tell you  what brought me back to reality.

Well, there were also some of the pictures of these beautiful and inspiring women whom we failed to notice between these marriage pictures. These women are beautiful, successful, inspiring and most importantly brave…!!!

Brave enough to lead an inspiring life. Brave enough to face the heart breaks and the world gracefully.

Two among those are my all time favorites these two Jennifer. I love both Jennifer Anniston and Jennifer Winget. Both are so damn fit and gorgeous. But they didn’t had a fairy tale relationships. They did find their handsome and charming prince but not faithful once. Faithful enough to keep their hearts safe.

 

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These two women had a very bad heartbreaks. When I say very bad not only because their husbands chose to leave them and spend their lives with some other woman, also because being celebrity your personal life is not so personal. Every details(infact more than actual detail) get spread all over the media.

Do you think its easy??? Na…!!! Did these women cry??? Yes they did. After all we are human. Did their life stop??? No. They chose to shine. They chose to see brighter side of the world and beat the world with their smile.

 

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Here is a proof. Look how this lady is grateful for her life. This post in deed thought me to be grateful for what we have.

Adding to the list, Deepika Padukone. She is my favorite Bollywood actress since her debut movie. Being such a graceful successful woman, we often think everything comes to her easily. Well, we did think so when she met Ranbir Kapoor. They both were so much in love. Had shared their future plans with media. Deepika was so much head  over heels in love with him that she got his initials tattooed on her nape. But, her heart broke too when she found him cheating on her. Hurts. Unfortunately money or beauty is not everything all gals dream of. Deepika came out in public and even admitted that she went into depression. Her mother noticed the symptoms and provided all help to heal her.

Heart breaks, heart aches, ups, downs all are mandatory to be a successful human being. Its life. Happiness, pain, laughter, cry everything make life interesting. Don’t you think so???

 

 

I really feel at the end of the day – how happy and content you are with yourself matters the most. Loving someone, wanting to be loved by someone is natural. But, loving oneself and being happy in one’s one skin is something we need. If we are not happy with ourselves, I don’t think we will be ever be able to love or loved by someone.

Every gal dreams of meeting her Kohli. The one who loves her, who looks at her as if she is a magic. Who will fight for her and never let her go. This is a sweet feeling. I know.

But, what is more sweeter is realising how beautiful life is with or without your prince charm. Things you should be grateful for.

There is this saying – even if I meet my prince, my dad will be my king forever. Not because he has  kingdom but because he treats me like a princess…!! When you have loving parents, siblings, friends who are more than family – you are more richer than most of the people.

I have heard people saying some cheesy lines – you are incomplete without a man in your life. You feel complete ones you get married. Well, Hello… I might be 1/4th or 1/2 or 3/4th whatever, according to you. But, I know I am not a puzzle, waiting for a square piece to get complete. I don’t need any one to complete me.

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It’s nice to share your life with someone you love. Someone who loves you. But judging someone with such criteria… I can’t buy that.

Wait for your prince charm. But don’t waste your present in that. Enjoy the life you have. Make the most of it. Once the time is right – You will meet the guy of your dreams. Who might love you more than what you had dreamt of. You never know. Magic do happen.

Between, the second reception of Virat and Anushka will soon be on social media. Remember – never compare your chapter one to someone else’s last. Enjoy the chapter. If you don’t understand what’s going on in it, just enjoy the confusion.

If you still start self pitying, just remember the women I told about,  to inspire yourself. 🙂

Loads of love to the strong warrior princess who is inside every lady out there.

 

Benefits of This Cheapest Health and Beauty Product

Hey you,

You might have read a lot many times, let me repeat a looottt many times to drink more water. No matter what might be your beauty problem is, one common remedy is – drink more water, keep yourself hydrated…!!! Why???

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I will tell you why. Why we need to drink more and more water. The benefits of it.

Read on to know the pros of cheapest beauty product you have around.

Water balance
Our body is composed of 60% of water. In order to keep body working, we need water. Be it circulation, respiration.. we need water. So drinking water is must to keep the body ‘up and running.’

Improves Skin complexion
Water keeps you hydrated. Thus it can make wonders which a good branded cream can’t do.

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Wrinkles – Go away
Too avoid the early signs of aging like wrinkles, drink more water gal..!!! It helps in keeping skin’s elasticity thus wrinkles..??? Whats that… #wink

Weight loss
Every gal’s dream to lose weight without doing anything much…!!! Isn’t it??Mantra is simple. Drink more water. Are you wondering how??? Firstly the great news is water has zero fat in it. #LOL it removes fat, increases metabolism. If you drink water before meal, you are almost full so you will eat less. Tada you have already started with your weight loss journey…!!!

Cleanse body
The more you drink water, the more toxin gets eliminated from your body in the form of sweat and urine. It will also avoid the kidney stone formation.

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Food for brain
Brain needs more water content to be active and thus you can concentrate more and be active.

Boosts immune system
The more you drink water, the more stronger the immune system. Studies have also proved that the person drinking more water falls less sick than the one who doesn’t.

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Back and head ache- Bye bye
Usually the back and head aches are caused due to dehydration. Drink more water to say bye bye to those pains.

No cramps and sprains
Water helps to keep joints lubricated and maintain elasticity of muscles. Thus no sprains and cramps.

Money saver
Water is much much cheaper than any other drinks. Agreed??? You can save money there and spend it for some other shopping. #JustKidding

I hope this post is convincing enough for you to drink more water…!!

Last tip – “Drink more water’ !!!

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