Live Life Queen Size Says Bala Girl aka Chic Maharani

Let me start with my memories or first experience with people who are a part of LGBT community, that is transgenders. As a kid I remember I feared transgender. Because when you are kid, you see everything with your curious eyes. You tend to believe what you are told. I don’t remember who told me this, but I was told that they are bad people and cursed to be the way they are. But my idea about them changed when I actually met and spoke to them. Once I was travelling in a train with my parents and we came across some transgender women who were our co-passengers. They were so warm; they even offered us their seats. That made me realize that they are not the cursed or the bad ones, but the ones who lie about them and make us believe those lies are.

#377 was trending last year. Section 377 according to which se*ual activities against the order of nature was illegal. It was a joyful day for many souls out there. Who are ‘different’ from the ‘normal’. We saw so many people posting their stories, pictures of people who had happy tears. They were finally free to be who they are, free to love.

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My Facebook feed was flooded with people changing their display pictures to rainbow colored one. (I am sure your feed was also colorful while 377 was removed.) Everyone out there were posting and sharing “Love is love”. But I want to tell you, sharing the slogans or changing the display pictures is not going to change much to LGBT community. Accepting the fact that “A human is a human irrespective of their choice of living” is something will do.

Mygirlypedia came across one of these beautiful souls while scrolling through the Instagram feed. Ms. Krishnan Balaji (Bala).

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“I was in class 6 when I realised I was different. I was drawn towards ‘girly’ things–I never played sports & hung out with girls. People began making fun of my behaviour, gestures & my walk. They would even shout out, ‘Homo!’ I didn’t even know what that meant. I’d lock myself up & cry all day. I was even sexually harassed by a 50 year old man & in 12th grade, my best friend said, ‘I’m from a decent family & can’t be friends with you’. I was shattered! By the time I reached college I’d lost all my self-esteem. I suppressed that part of me & lied to people. I even had a friend pretend to be my girlfriend. I lived in fear of the world. It pushed me to the edge & I tried killing myself. But a friend stopped me, & asked why I gave those who didn’t care for me so much importance? That changed my life. From then on, I was unashamedly myself. My daily life was still a battle. I was called names & people pelted stones at my window. When I stayed in a PG, my roommate saw me & moved to another room. He told everyone I was gay & that it was a disease. But, I found immense support too. The editor at my earlier job, was so helpful. He took me to events where I met people like me! For the first time, I wasn’t alone. I even met a makeup artist who inspired me to explore makeup & crossdressing. My mom was another pillar of strength. Once, a relative told her to take me to a doctor. My mom bluntly told her to not call again! That’s when I gave crossdressing a chance. I remember going to buy lipstick & when I told the salesman that it was for myself, his eyes popped out! But I didn’t care–I was going to be who I wanted to be, proudly. Our society has stereotypes that only girls wear pink or only guys can gym. I want people to know it’s okay to choose your happiness over everyone else's, to fall in love with who you are & not care about ‘what people will say’. Live for yourself, not for anyone else & walk with your head held high. You owe it to yourself to own who you are!” — HoB with Amazon Prime Video India brings to you the real stories of people which showcases the good, the bad & the ugly–all that is a part of the chaos of life, through their new show #MadeInHeaven

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What caught my eyes was the way she carries herself, so gracefully. Being a girly girl myself, I must say she carries herself way better than many of the girls out there. Those neck pieces, bangles, anklets look so pretty on her. Needless to say she looks her best in that smudged kajal and bindi look.That’s the way she is – graceful and classy.

I had read about certain things like a beautiful soul trapped inside a wrong body. When you look at the beautiful pictures of this beautiful soul, even you will find that’s true. It’s a beautiful soul of a woman inside a man’s body.

 

Mygirlypedia got a privilege to interview this kind woman. Hop in to know more about Bala, her life, struggles she went through, her dreams, her love for makeup and dressing up etc.

 

Mygirlypedia : Tell me about yourself, what do you do for living.

Bala : I am a PR manager and work for celebrities that’s my bread and butter. Apart from that I’m a gender activist and gave TEDx talk last year. I’m fighting to break the gender stereotypes. Because our society has some barriers like there are certain things which only men can do and set of things only women can. That’s what I want to break through.

I even get invitations from principals of schools to come and conduct LGBT workshops for 6th, 7th and 8th standard students. It’s about how to save yourself from bullies. How to stay strong.

 

Mygirlypedia : Tell me about your family

Bala : I have an elder brother who is in abroad. He hasn’t accepted me yet. Mom supports me a lot. Dad doesn’t as we belong to orthodox family.

But they are happy with me, my achievements. I think somewhere I have also given them a lot of time to think about these things. They belong to different generation and they do need time to accept.

A small and happy go family.

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My one and only!!! #MommyLove #MyLifeline

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Mygirlypedia : How was your childhood

Bala : My childhood has been a roller coaster ride for me, loads of ups and downs.

I used to mingle more with girls than boys and not in to sports (again a gender stereotype that a boy should actively take part in sports.). At that tender age, I did not understand all these things.

When I realized that I am different, people didn’t believe me. They used to shout at me, tease me by shouting homo. Some used to even bash me verbally. They used to abuse me.

What hurt me more was losing one of my male best friends. He didn’t receive my calls initially and one fine day he ended our friendship by saying that he cannot accept me the way I am as it is against his religious believes.

I went into depression while I was in college. At some point of time I used to take 5-6 anti depressants in a day. I even took sick leave for a month. Once I came back, even after knowing what I went through, people were not kind to me. They even refused to help me with the academics/ classes I missed. It was a rough phase of my life.

These things made me start thinking – why me? Why am I different? Why everyone is taking advantage of my situation? Why everyone is taking advantage of my silence??

With absolutely no support from anyone, all the bullies around in college – I lost the purpose of life and I wanted to end my life.

But I owe my life to theses angels whom I proudly call my dear friends – Shruthi, Arundati, Rashmika. They said “Bala, why do you want to commit suicide? Why can’t you live for the ones who love you??? To whom you matter a lot. Why are you giving so much importance to your haters that you want to end your life?” That made me realize what I was going to do..!!! That stopped me from losing this precious life.

 

Mygirlypedia : When did you realize about your real self?

Bala : After college, I started working for a magazine at Delhi. I met this huge community of people who are like me. That is where I realized I am as beautiful as everyone around. I found the purpose for life. That is where my new life started. I realized I am here to spread love. I learnt to live for others which in turn gave lot of happiness. I don’t miss the pride parades. I walk every year for those who are still living inside the closet.

Mygirlypedia : What was that one push that made you gather the courage to open up about yourself?

Bala : Namrata Soni (celebrity makeup artist and my best friend), whom I met during a makeup master class. I told her once “Namrata, I am scared of applying kajal/ lipstick”. She said one sentence which motivates me every time. “Bala, not everyone is going to accept you. You should be yourself and stop caring what others think”. That moment made me brave enough to take major step towards being myself. Then I started buying cosmetics for myself.

(I personally feel, she looks so pretty with kajal. That south Indian look is so graceful. )

Mygirlypedia : Who was the first person with whom you spoke about it?

Bala : I think it is Nishara from college. Then I spoke to my friends Rashmika, Shruthi (because of whom I am still alive).

 

Mygirlypedia : What was your parent’s reaction?

Bala : Dad and brother couldn’t accept the fact. They are taking their time to absorb things.

Mom, she took time too to accept. Even though she doesn’t really talk about it openly but she somewhere understands me. We even share cosmetics now.

Mygirlypedia : Who is your support system?

Bala : I have a lot of straight friends who are my support system. I got some amazing friends at every phase of my life. Be it college be it office. Here are some of the gems I have:

Shruthi, Rashmika, Arundati, Aparna, Naina, Shavya, Nora, Shikha Dutt, Dharini Mishra, Divya Dhillon, Tasnim Ahmed, Jasmine Ahmed, Bhawna Gupta maa, Aher Abheena maa, Padma Iyer amma, Namrata Soni, Anaita Shroff, Vivek Giri, Ayush Joshi and Rishabh Singh.

Mygirlypedia : How do you handle the strange stares of people or how do you feel when people treat you differently in public places?

Bala : There are people who still make fun of me when I go out. Some have even misused my pictures to post on certain websites. I used to feel bad but not anymore.

Now I just turn back and give them a very gentle smile and say “People who make fun of others are not cable of achieving anything. You make fun of me because you don’t have the capacity to do what I am doing, living the life I want to. I am brave enough and go out and help people in need, which you cannot”

Mygirlypedia : What’s the best part of being new or the real you?

Bala : Se*y. I feel like that real chic Maharani (queen). (That’s the trendy name I have given for myself.)

Mygirlypedia : What would be one piece of advice you would like to give to following people:

Mygirlypedia : To people who are still living inside the closet:

Bala : Wait for the right time. Be independent. Because when you are dependent on your parents, you won’t be having much point to justify. Once you are independent, justification becomes meaningful  and convincing them would be easier. I also empathize and I stand with them.

Mygirlypedia : To bullies:

Bala : If you bully someone, please be ready to face karma. Because, karma is strong. Even if I forgive, karma won’t.  Tomorrow someone else will bully you for something. It shows your capability, it shows you are not capable of doing anything other than bullying. Karma is waiting to make you feel the same way you made us feel.

Today many of my college mates who had bullied me, asked sorry. But I am somehow not able to forgive them for the trauma they made me go through. For the way they treated me, sorry means nothing now.

Mygirlypedia : To Those Who Are Getting Bullied:

Bala : If you are getting bullied for being different, just stand firm and turn back. Make fun of the bullies for being the same.

Mygirlypedia  : People with misconceptions about gay people, like some even feel being different is something to do with mental illness:

Bala : I remember one of my roommates from a PG, in Delhi. We had joint bed. The second day, he separated his bed from mine. On the third day, he shifted his bed to another room. The next day he shifted to other room with all his stuffs. People are narrow minded.

To those educated and yet narrow minded people out there, I want to tell you – we all are same. Even we have red blood just like you. There is nothing to feel ashamed or feel bad about us. Break your brain and come out of that nutshell.

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Mygirlypedia : To your younger self:

Bala : That Bala is no more. That Bala is dead. I don’t want to remember that Bala. Because he is no more. This is a new Bala. I have taken a rebirth I would say.

Mygirlypedia : To all those people who love you:

Bala : I don’t want to say anything. I just want to give them a big bomb hug, a big fat bear hug. No matter what, I will always be with you guys till my last breath. Because of you I am here. I owe my life, my success to them. They are the best. They understand me inside out.

Mygirlypedia : What improvements would you like to see happen for LGBT community in India?

Bala : For LGBT community improvement, we need support from parents to come out of the closet and live a free life. One of my friends, who is a transgender, gets life threatening calls from her own brother. Think about how hurt she must be. 10 years somewhere down the line, I want to see all the parents giving a big warm hug to their children and  accept them.

Mygirlypedia : Tell me about power of love that you believe in:

Bala : Love is powerful. Love has different forms. Love of a mother and the child, which is the purest, love of a brother, a friend. I have so many friends who love me, who understand and support me.

Love has nothing do with gender, love is pure and transparent.  Accept it when it is true.

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Mygirlypedia : What according to you makes a man attractive?

Bala : (Blushes) His heart, his qualities, transparent nature, down to earth nature, respectable attitude towards everyone makes him attractive. I get attracted to guys with kind heart.

Mygirlypedia : Tell me about what your dream boy would be like.

Bala : (Shy) My dream boy should be someone just like my first crush. I had my first crush in school. Someone who is very confident, who is down to earth, caring and concerned and very understanding. I don’t like someone who is possessive. So, these are certain things what I look for in my guy.

Mygirlypedia  : What’s the secret of your positivity?

Bala : Secret of positivity is just love yourself. When you love yourself unconditionally, positive vibes just flow. Live for yourself. Do not hate your life no matter what.  Don’t owe any justification to anyone for being you.

Mygirlypedia  : Who is your favorite fashion designer?

Bala : Payal Singhal and Anaita Shroff, both are my favorites.

Mygirlypedia  : Who is your fashion icon?

Bala : Namrata Soni. I love her fashion sense.

Mygirlypedia : One celebrity whose wardrobe you would love to steal

Bala : Sonam Kapoor.

Mygirlypedia : When was the last time you shopped and what did you buy???

Bala : Yesterday and I bought some ghagra, jewelry and anklets.

Mygirlypedia : Which is your favorite kind of attire – Indian or western??

Bala : Indian, always.

Mygirlypedia : Which is your favorite piece of accessory, without which you feel incomplete?

Bala : Neck piece.

Mygirlypedia : Favorite nail paint color?

Bala : Red, pink and black. But red more.

Mygirlypedia : Your favorite lipstick shade.

Bala : Red. It’s classy.

Mygirlypedia : Which is your favorite cosmetics brand?

Bala : My glam. Namrata Soni is brand ambassador. So yes My glam is my favorite.

 

We all have one life to live. On top of that, tomorrow is not promised for anyone…!!!

If you spend this life in pleasing someone else or especially ‘society’, you will have a biggest regret while we are on death bed.

Least we can do to make full use of this life is to have that little craziness or that little guts to follow your heart. Most importantly to be kind to others. Sounds difficult??? Well, it is OK if you can’t help someone or be kind, but at least don’t trouble or don’t be rude to someone.

The LGBT people are just like us. They are like the way they are. They have been created that way. It is absolutely nothing to do with mental health or their up bringing and definitely nothing do with ghost or black magic. Just to simplify your view – they are like a soul trapped in a wrong body. Post talking to this girly soul, Bala, I truly believed that.

So, the next time if you hear someone saying such things, do correct them. Because instead of liking posts on social media about LGBT, lets spread knowledge about them and help them with their fight to make this a livable society.

They are just like us who need love and respect at the end of the day.

Be kind, be fabulous. 🙂

Do follow this beautiful soul on Instagram @queeromania.

Fun Friday : 5 Random Questions – Part 16

Fri-nalllyyy…!!!!

Ahhh that happy day is here…!!! Where everything just looks so merry and perfect… !!!

So,  ready for today’s fun Friday session????

Here you go…!!!

If given chance, Which fictional character would you like to meet in real life?

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Without any single thought it’s Chandler from my favorite series – F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

Which is one non-alcoholic drink which you can enjoy drinking, any time???

I love lime juice. You must have seen my picture on Instagram where I was seen drinking 2 glasses of lime juice at a time…!!!! haha

What’s the most inspiring thing you’ve read this week?

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I happened to read this quote somewhere while browsing and it was much needed.

“The Greatest Prayer is Patience” – Buddha. 

Have you ever danced in rain???

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Yes. Have you???

What are you – Early, right on time or a late comer???

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I belong to last category. I am always late hehe. #SorryButNoSorry

Have a great weekend gal…!!!!

As I always say, do something that makes your soul happy and relaxed. 🙂

 

 

Five Bollywood Female Characters to Get Inspired From, On This Women’s Day

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‘Women’s Day’ is just around the corner. While the world starts praising the ‘role’ of a woman in their lives, I have this post up, where I am praising the ‘roles’ of some women in Bollywood movies which have inspired me to be the best version of myself.

You know I am a Bollywood fan. Being one, I can’t miss the fact that there are some movies which have inspired to be stronger, independent and of course prettier version of myself. I think this is the right time to share my list of favorite female characters of Bollywood.

I know there are plenty of characters who are worth idealizing, here are the five whom I love for inspiring me. I am sure even you will agree to my point if you have already watched them if not, grab a bucket of popcorn and watch them this weekend.

Shashi from the movie – English Vinglish

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Ok this is my small tribute to the star whom we lost last week – Sridevi. Even though she has acted in plenty of films in Bollywood, this will always be my favorite.

Which is the most hectic job you can imagine??? Doctor??? Army??? Cook?? umm teacher??? Na.. its being a mother or a home maker. Yes. Think about it. It’s 24 * 7 job. Alll through out the year. No holidays. You can’t take leaves. No payment. Unfortunately the worst part is, not all of those who opt for this job happily, do not even get the appreciation or credit which they deserve at the end of the day. Disheartening isn’t it??? Well, this is the story of most of the middle class ‘home makers’.

The movie ‘English Vinglish’ is based on these similar lines. Shashi – a beautiful mommy of two kids. Along with managing all household works, Shashi holds a tiny catering business where she prepares this Indian sweet – ‘laddu’. Her working husband and her daughter doesn’t really care or respect what she is doing. Her daughter treats her mom so badly (at some point of time you feel like slapping her while watching the movie) just because mom doesn’t know to speak English. As most of the people get judged by the way they talk in English. #Sad It’s just a language guys. Language is been invented to communicate what you feel. not to make someone feel bad.

But, Shashi goes to USA to attend her niece’s wedding. That’s where her life changes. She happened to join ‘English speaking’ class. The struggle to manage class timings in spite of managing all the marriage arrangements, her dedication, her innocence will melt your heart..

Due to some unexpected things in the house, Shashi misses her final exam of her class. But yet she manages to score more than anyone else in the class. How?? Well, watch the movie to know. Her transformation from being an under confident Indian woman to a confident woman is worth the watch.

Thank you Sridevi for making Shashi alive and inspiring tons of ladies to realise that there is nothing impossible if you have the willpower to do it, through ‘English Vinglish’.

2. Rani from the movie Queen:

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This is one of my favorite.

So the world is been divided into 2 categories of women. One – who want to be independent and doesn’t really want to get into this thing called ‘marriage’. The other –  all they can dream about is their marriage. I am not saying it’s bad, but I don’t belong to that category at least.

So, our heroine Rani belongs to the later one. She is happy that she is getting married to her ‘prince charm’. She has everything planned. From her marriage dress to her honeymoon tickets. Paris – is where she is flying to, post her marriage.

Well, life is about expecting the unexpected. Right??? Her ‘Price charm’ calls off the wedding on her ‘big day’. Because he thinks she is not of his ‘type’.

Haww… Calling off a marriage – Breaking news for all those gossip aunties…!!! Heart broken bride and her family. In India at least, ‘marriage’ is like a licence to live life in the ‘society’. If you are not married, ahhh forget about leading a ‘peaceful’ life here.

But, Rani decides to go on honeymoon. Alone. Instead of cribbing on her misfortune, she chooses to face it.

Let me skip her stay in France because I can’t really pen down all those beautiful moments of hers, where she transforms into a beautiful butterfly from a cocoon.

You know what will make you watch this movie for??? When she comes back to India – her ‘prince charm’ who has realised whom he has lost, proposes to her for marriage ‘again’. But Rani refuses.

Because after so many struggles she has found her own self. Whom she refuses to lose for any one’s sake.

That’s beautiful. Because losing oneself while loving others is the worst thing to happen.

3. Geet from the movie Jab We Met

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Being strong, independent is something necessary. But you know what else is??? Being silly, crazy and dare to do what you like rather than what society likes you to be.

Geeth from Jab We Met thought me – sometimes all you need is those 2 minutes of craziness to change your entire life for good.

She chooses to run away from home with her friend, to meet and marry the guy she loves. (Read the line she loves twice. Because she is not really sure whether he feels the same and whether  will come to get her or not. Umm I already told you, she is crazy.)

She says this to her friend before leaving home – “I don’t know whether I will be happy with him or not. But what makes me happy is that, whatever is happening is because of ‘my’ choice not because of my parents’ choice. So I will be happy. I don’t want to regret someday that I had a chance to run away but I didn’t. Instead I will be happy that at least I dared to do so.”

Amazingly true…!!! This made me also believe – I don’t want to live or die with any  regrets.

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Anddd my mosttt favourite dialogue of Bollywood -“Mai Apni Favorite hoon” (I am my favourite). The way she loves herself, will make you fall in love with yourself all over again. Trust me on this.

Whether Geeth meets her guy, whether she gets married to him?? Watch the movie. I am sure you will love the movie. I can at least watch this movie for zillion times without getting bored.

4. Naina from Ye Jawani Hai Deewani

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An introvert, topper of the class, umm to make simple – a boring gal, opts to go out on a trip with her class’ ‘last benchers’ to explore life. During the journey she finds her true self and also finds her ‘prince charm’. The guy she falls in love, is passionate about what he does – travelling. On the last day of their trip, Naina decides to confess to him about how she feels for him. Bad timing huun. By that time, he receives this job letter where he gets to travel and gets paid for it. Do you think he will leave that opportunity??? Na. Also he doesn’t even know how Naina feels for him. So he chooses to go and get that job.

Naina, unlike any ‘typical’ Bollywood heroine, chooses not to confess her love. She lets him go, go and live his dream. She completes her degree and achieves her dream of being a doctor.

Life is full of surprises. They meet again. This time, even the guy falls in love. But Naina knows he can’t settle down at one place because his job doesn’t allows him to do so. What made me appreciate Naina, unlike any other gal – she refuses to leave her dream and go with him. She lets him go again, even though she loves him so much. At the end, he leaves his job to settle down with love of his life – Naina.

Determined Naina won my heart. You go gal…!!!

As most of gals sacrifice everything just to ‘settle down’ with their ‘prince charm’. Is that really worth doing??? May be in the beginning yes with all those new changes in life, you do feel right. But how about 10-15 years later??? Will you be still happy with your decision??? Choose your path wisely gal.

 5. Meera from the movie NH10

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I had this phobia of darkness. It was nothing less than a nightmare for me to go out in the dark even to watch starts. Yes I am serious. I used to grab my grandma’s hands while she used to take me out to show the stars. These phobias I know..!!!

But, this one movie changed my perception about darkness. It made me fear the darkness inside a human than the darkness outside.

Meera – a modern, working woman from Delhi, lives with love of her life – her husband. On their anniversary they choose to spend their day at a place far away from the city. They take a road trip. But they get into a big mess in the middle of the road. So messy that she loses her husband due to some evil people.

Her battles to save her husband’s life and when she fails I am sure your eyes will be moist just like mine.

But story doesn’t ends there. Meera continues to fight.

The movie is about that one messy night in the life of Meera. She fights all the difficulties and how she manages to take her revenge by early morning is thrilling. This will definitely make you realise, we women, are more than what we believe we are. We have immense strength inside us. People say we are physically weaker than men. But mentally, we are much much stronger than any man out there. Watch this movie to boost that inner you.

 

So, these are the five Bollywood female characters who has inspired me the most.

What about you??? Do you have any of your favorite ones??? I am sure you do.

Share their names & movie name below in the comments section. So that I and some other beautiful souls can watch and get inspired…!!!

 

 

To All Those Gals Who Are Feeling Bad After Watching Virushka’s Wedding Pictures

Dear gal,

The dreamy wedding of the year…!!! As I had posted earlier, it was in deed a fairy tale wedding. A destination wedding in Italy, between closed ones the most handsome guy married the most happy and beautiful bride.

The other day when Anushka and Virat got married, amidst all happy, heart warming wishes, lets admit most of our hearts were sad.

Sad not because the most handsome cricketer of our country is taken, because I don’t think we would get any chance to see him, forget about marriage but for feeling pity for oneself for some reasons. The pictures of their wedding had touched the nerves of our hearts which is responsible for ‘romance'(you know what I mean). Those who are already married must have regretted for not capturing such precious moments or not spending much money on a good photographer rather. Gals who are unmarried must have wished of getting married like them. At least I did. Her lehenga made me dream of my wedding. #Confession.

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The way she entered , the smile on her face, the way he looked at her and welcomed her to mandap. The little conversation of theirs. Awww it did melt our hearts.

Let me admit, then the sad story begins. Why me??? why don’t I get awesomely loving guy like Kholi.??? I have no regrets to confess that at least I did feel bad for myself and I was super jealous of Anushka. He is such a caring man…!!! #Sob

Then, I started analyzing things. What we saw was a part of story which they chose to share it with us. What about the journey they walked together??? Was it really easy for them to maintain their private and professional life. Was it really easy to protect their relationship from getting broken because of many issues like media which doesn’t really give them space, time constraints due to their work commitments etc. I don’t think so. It must be mutual effort of those two love birds which made them the winners at the end of the day. I think they do deserve the happiness.

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I happen to share everything with my sister. I know her well and I knew she would have felt the same ‘jealousy/sad’ thing. In deed it was right. Strangely when I happened to discuss this on a lighter note with some of my friends, they did it too. I was then relieved. haha.

I know most of the gals did cringe about it. So thus most of the gals ended up being sad. Thanks to social media which was flooded with the pictures of these 2 love birds. As much as we were happy for them, we were sad for ourselves.

We were somewhere getting better from that hangover, their reception pictures were all over the internet. Right from their entry, the way they chatted and danced. OMG.. Perfection…!!!

Let me tell you  what brought me back to reality.

Well, there were also some of the pictures of these beautiful and inspiring women whom we failed to notice between these marriage pictures. These women are beautiful, successful, inspiring and most importantly brave…!!!

Brave enough to lead an inspiring life. Brave enough to face the heart breaks and the world gracefully.

Two among those are my all time favorites these two Jennifer. I love both Jennifer Anniston and Jennifer Winget. Both are so damn fit and gorgeous. But they didn’t had a fairy tale relationships. They did find their handsome and charming prince but not faithful once. Faithful enough to keep their hearts safe.

 

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These two women had a very bad heartbreaks. When I say very bad not only because their husbands chose to leave them and spend their lives with some other woman, also because being celebrity your personal life is not so personal. Every details(infact more than actual detail) get spread all over the media.

Do you think its easy??? Na…!!! Did these women cry??? Yes they did. After all we are human. Did their life stop??? No. They chose to shine. They chose to see brighter side of the world and beat the world with their smile.

 

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Jennifer Aniston

 

Here is a proof. Look how this lady is grateful for her life. This post in deed thought me to be grateful for what we have.

Adding to the list, Deepika Padukone. She is my favorite Bollywood actress since her debut movie. Being such a graceful successful woman, we often think everything comes to her easily. Well, we did think so when she met Ranbir Kapoor. They both were so much in love. Had shared their future plans with media. Deepika was so much head  over heels in love with him that she got his initials tattooed on her nape. But, her heart broke too when she found him cheating on her. Hurts. Unfortunately money or beauty is not everything all gals dream of. Deepika came out in public and even admitted that she went into depression. Her mother noticed the symptoms and provided all help to heal her.

Heart breaks, heart aches, ups, downs all are mandatory to be a successful human being. Its life. Happiness, pain, laughter, cry everything make life interesting. Don’t you think so???

 

 

I really feel at the end of the day – how happy and content you are with yourself matters the most. Loving someone, wanting to be loved by someone is natural. But, loving oneself and being happy in one’s one skin is something we need. If we are not happy with ourselves, I don’t think we will be ever be able to love or loved by someone.

Every gal dreams of meeting her Kohli. The one who loves her, who looks at her as if she is a magic. Who will fight for her and never let her go. This is a sweet feeling. I know.

But, what is more sweeter is realising how beautiful life is with or without your prince charm. Things you should be grateful for.

There is this saying – even if I meet my prince, my dad will be my king forever. Not because he has  kingdom but because he treats me like a princess…!! When you have loving parents, siblings, friends who are more than family – you are more richer than most of the people.

I have heard people saying some cheesy lines – you are incomplete without a man in your life. You feel complete ones you get married. Well, Hello… I might be 1/4th or 1/2 or 3/4th whatever, according to you. But, I know I am not a puzzle, waiting for a square piece to get complete. I don’t need any one to complete me.

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It’s nice to share your life with someone you love. Someone who loves you. But judging someone with such criteria… I can’t buy that.

Wait for your prince charm. But don’t waste your present in that. Enjoy the life you have. Make the most of it. Once the time is right – You will meet the guy of your dreams. Who might love you more than what you had dreamt of. You never know. Magic do happen.

Between, the second reception of Virat and Anushka will soon be on social media. Remember – never compare your chapter one to someone else’s last. Enjoy the chapter. If you don’t understand what’s going on in it, just enjoy the confusion.

If you still start self pitying, just remember the women I told about,  to inspire yourself. 🙂

Loads of love to the strong warrior princess who is inside every lady out there.