Every Man Needs A Mother, A Wife, A Sister Then Why Not A Daughter???

This morning, while I was reading the newspaper a small column caught my eyes. It’s news about Uttarakhand state.A part of the state consisting of 312 villages, has the data or stats saying that there are 312 male babies born in last three months. Interesting part here is, there is not even a single girl child born in that duration..!!
Before you go into the loop of thinking about any curse or something, let me tell you it’s one of those incidents where a girl child is treated as a curse.! It is not a coincident that every mother gave birth to a boy in last three months. This seems like many girl children have been murdered while they were inside their mothers’ womb. Which is said to be one of the most safest and most comfortable place for a kid. Unfortunately those girls couldn’t even make it to the world.

Why does Indians pray for a male child??? That to in front of Devi/ goddess, who is a female. During the days of kings, they longed for a male child as they needed a ruler to protect their kingdoms and people. One who could continue the name of their family. This makes a little sense as most of those rulers or dynasties were worth mentioning in the pages of history. What about now??? Do all individuals who are opting to kill their girl child has any dynasty to take care of???In some cases they go to the extra heights to get the male or the husband a ‘new’ wife with the hope (read it as guarantee) that she will give him a male child which his previous wife couldn’t. They seldom know that the gender of the baby is determined by the chromosome shared by the father, not the mother. Changing the wife is not the solution…!! Changing the attitude is.

I don’t have a brother of my own. But I have a sister who loves me more than a brother would have loved me.
She is always emotionally available for me. She understands and takes care of me more than any male creature would ever do. Because the level of understanding and love you share with your sister is no where comparable to that of with a brother. Back in those days, since I don’t have a brother, we were judged, questioned a lot many times. As a child and now as an adult I was, am and will always be glad that I have a sister and not a brother. Sisters are for life. Brothers, ummm they are not really good at maintaining all the relationships at a time. It’s too much for them to juggle between mother and wife. Forget about sisters. (It’s out of my own experience with my cousin brothers. If you have a brother who loves and takes care of you even after his marriage, you should appreciate your brother more. ) But I had this doubt why people insist a couple to have a baby boy, why not a baby girl???

I did asked this question to some ‘elderly’ people who asked such questions to me or to my family. The answers were –

  • You will not be with your parents when they grow old, because you will have to move to your husband’s home and take care of your in laws. But a son will always be there.
  • Son can protect his parents physically and economically.
  • Son will carry on the name of the family, unlike girls who need to adopt her husband’s surname.
  • When parents die, son is the one who’ll lit the sacred fire in order to give his parents eternal peace. The list continued.

Back in those days I didn’t really bother to give answers to those questions. But now I guess I have some.

  • First of all, what is the guarantee that the son will always be there for you? Instead, i guarantee that daughters love and take care of parents way more better than a son would ever try to. Because we girls have this super power called love and care. They are like our ‘default settings’. You don’t have to configure those in us. But in guys, I can’t guarantee that you can even configure that in each boy. While adopting the new family, we still can be ourselves with our own family – parents and siblings.
  • Son can protect you physically. What??? Is a super man or something??? About economic support, hello, we do earn and support family just like any son. sometimes, trust me we earn more than your loved son does.
  • The trend of changing surname to that of husband’s is long gone. A girl has the right to keep her paternal surname with her name forever. If she wants, she can add her husband’s surname as a suffix. Thanks to actress Aishwarya Rai Bachhan who started this trend.
  • About sacred fire to attain peace. Firstly, we girls are high on emotions. WE can’t even and don’t want to discuss such emotional stuffs. But one query – Is there any proof that only if a son does this ritual, God will grant peace??? As far as I remember Gods are not gender biased. Are they???

Evil in me is glad today that some of the ladies who used to ask questions about ‘ONLY’ girl children to my parents, are tasting their own karma. Some of their sons have left them, some are not earning, some are not married because girls think that they are not a good candidates to get married…!!! Ahem ahem. I am not claiming that all the sons are careless or all daughters are responsible. I know few boys who are great sons. But if you compare, the emotional support a parent gets from daughter is way more than a son. The number of responsible daughters is higher than responsible sons.Girls are talkative, so free entertainment in the house. haha. Caring enough to switch roles yet times when parents behave like a child. We are good listeners. We know to love beyond limit and care without giving up. We are good at academics (I am not saying this, every year the exam result stats say this), we aim to earn and be independent plus aim to support parents when they are in need. No matter where we go, we will always feel loved to be called as our parents’ daughters. Girls are no more restricted to kitchen or home making, we are in every field now. Right from agriculture to space science, from dance to athletics, we are reaching new heights every single day.I just want to tell one thing to those who pray and wish to have male child – No matter how good your son gets, you will NEED a girl to get married to him to ‘carry on’ your family name…!!!Even though female feticide or abortion is illegal, it’s horrifying that people still opt to do it. It is dishartening to see so many girl children losing their lives before opening their eyes, for no fault of theirs. Even though concerned officials have started the investigation in the Uttarakhand case, unless and until we, as a citizen don’t wake up, such incidents are not going to end. Because improving a nation or society is not just the responsibility of government or one individual.Let’s not let a girl child who can become a loving daughter, caring sister, charming wife, adorable daughter in law, amazing mother, close her eyes permanently before even opening them…!!

Deepika and Ranveer Announced Their Wedding Date and This is Why I Just Can’t Keep Calm…!!! Na, I Have Not Got Any Invite.

Hellooooo,

I’m so so happy today…!!!! Reason is ‘Wedding’. Na, before you start congratulating me and start asking who the luck guy is, let me tell you I am not happy because it’s my wedding. I’m happy because my favorite acctress Deepika Padukone is getting married to the man she loves in less than a month…!!!

Deepika is been my favorite since her debut Kannada movie. I was quite famous in ladies hostel during graduation due to my fondness for my favorite dimple queen. #Fangirl

She fell in love with Bollywood’s heart-throb Ranbir Kapoor. Ahhh I was one of those fans who loved them as a couple. They were quite vocal about their relationship. It was a fairy tale. Till one day when they announced their split. The reason most of you know.

Like any other people who fall in love and goes through a heart break, Deepika too had her bit of bitter phase.

I loved her way more when she came out in public to say about most important and most neglected topic – mental health. Being a celebrity from showbiz industry, she didn’t even think about how people gonna react to this. Because trust me most of the people in my country are good at one thing- judging others without even knowing them.

She publicaly said that she was suffering from depression. She did explain how it felt to be depressed, how she recognized it, took treatment and came out of it with flying colors. This made a lot of people to talk about depression and thus she has saved lot of lives. Her organization Live Love Laugh, works for people who are going through mental illness. Isn’t that great???

Then in 2013 Ram Leela happened. Deepika had announced her excitement to work with well known director SLB. But little did she know that the movie is going to change her life forever, in a good (read it awesome) way…!!!

In the movie, she was cast against the handsome Ranveer Singh. They met on set and rest is history…!!!

Ranveer, is a bundle of high voltage energy. He is happy and excited alllwaysss. I mean if you see him in any award function or interview he is always fun and energetic. So positive.

Deepika on the other hand always calm and composed.

You know they say opposite attracts, I think that’s what it is.

One of the best things I loved about them is, they never hesitated to show the warmth and fondness in front of people. Especially Ranveer, it was so evident that he treats her like a queen. The way he looks at her, OMG I’m not crying, you are. Also, he brings her goofiness out. I love that… ๐Ÿ˜˜

She even said in one of her interviews that she likes Ranveer and trusts him so much. She can keep her soul na*ed in front of him. She didn’t have to hide anything. Isn’t this what we all look for in a partner?? Who is our best friend where we don’t have to hide things, especially with whom we don’t have to pretend to be someone else.

This is what I learnt from Deepika:

She came from non Bollywood background. With no God father in the industry. She wasn’t great with her acting in the beginning but what made her the top earning actress is her dedication and hard work to get better and better day by day. People once who said she is just for glamour now clap their hands post witnessing her performance. Yes, I learnt from her, to work on oneself to be the better version. To build our own identity and to grow as a strong individual.

She loved. She had her heart broken. For a celebrity it’s way more tougher. Because every pretty huge piece of their life is over the internet. Be it ugly break-up, rumored link up. It’s everywhere. Hard to move on. Don’t you think so??? But she tried. She did go through depression. She didn’t hide. She spoke. Spoke in order to help others.

I learnt that you learn from your own life circumstances. If you care for people you love, do share your learnings with them. You might be helping them from doing some blunders. If you are going through something sad, be open about it. Do not keep inside and suffer. But choose wisely whom you are opening your mind to.

What I learnt from her love life is, no matter how bad it can get, be patient. End of something might be an indication that something much better is coming…!!! Sometimes you have to kiss few frogs in order to find the prince. ๐Ÿ˜‰ When the time is right, right person will come to your life for good. Who makes you feel you are the most beautiful woman in the entire world. With whom you can be the way you are. Whom you can call home. ๐Ÿ˜Š

So if you are just out from a relationship from your Ranbir or waiting for one, just wait for some more time. Your Ranveer will come along when the time is right. Till then work on yourself to be a strong independent individual like Deepika. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Plus, no matter what, put on that beautiful smile and face the world like a queen. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

Ahhh in all three movies Ranveer and Deepika have performed, ended on a sadder note. I’m so so soooo Happy that the real life is so much happier than on silver screen for them and as well as for their fans. ๐Ÿคฉ

I love you Deepika since day one and I love you Ranveer for making us understand how we must be treated by a guy. Thank you for setting those goals.

I wish you a loads of happiness and love to both who found the homes for their souls.

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Now my dreams about her wedding outfit continues…!!!