Heard About Self Love? Here is How You Can Fall In Love With Yourself

A bad day at work.

As I am sitting here typing this, I have tears in my eyes which has almost dried. I am pretty sure by the time I reach next few paragraphs, it will be converted into a smile.

While I let myself cry out loud on some unpleasant days, I also make sure I analyse the situation, and apply this formula of 5. Just one simple question – Does this gonna effect you 5 years down the line??? If yes, work on it and give your best to make things work in your favor. If not, shut the f*ck off and smile. No point in shedding tears and ruining your eye makeup for some people who doesn’t even care. Simple.

While you are sad, it’s so important to talk to yourself and analyse. To calm yourself and clear your mind. Because trust me, if you keep depending on a person that he/she will cheer you up every damn time you are upset. Honey, you will be even more upset one day.

Why I am telling you all this is because is to let you guys know how important it is to maintain this one strong relationship with that one person who is ALWAYS with you in all your pain, sorrow, happiness, achievements, failures every little things you do in your life. For example right now, while reading this, you have that one person with you. Who??? Yourself.

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Some might find it funny. But like seriously, think about it. Were your parents by your side in ALL your pain??? I agree they are, in most of them. But come on, they are human beings too. They can’t be with you 24*7. Siblings?? friends??? Spouse(#besthubby)??? No…!!!! But you were there. Your heart, brain and of course your soul were with you. Still this relationship called ‘Self love’ is so underrated

Often self love is misinterpreted as selfishness, being self obsessed, self centric. No matter what they call it. I say it is a necessity to breath and live this one time offer called – life.

I often see ladies who transform so much post marriage that they are as if reborn. No offense, I know how dedicated we must be to play that role of a wife/mother/daughter in law. To work towards well being of your new family. I admire that. But I would admire you more if you not forget your best friend – You. Because I have heard, seen, experienced that losing yourself is the biggest loss. As much as you love falling in love with yourself, you will regret losing yourself.

Don’t agree??? Try it by yourself. 🙂

How to love one self???

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Well, this is something I can’t really make a list and give you. This is something you should cultivate within yourselves. Trust me when you fall in love with yourself, your world will be a happiest one. Your self confidence and esteem are boosted by this relationship.

I can tell you some tried and tested tips by me which might help you feel this kind of love.

No, I am not starting with ‘retail therapy’. Honestly, retail therapy is something I adore.(you guys know that shopaholic side of mine.) But the happiness you get by the things you buy lasts for shorter span. This helps you for a while but not forever. Buying stuffs and pampering yourself is considered as brownie points but not the ultimate trophy.

Umm.. what else can we do to fall in love with that super sincere person of yours???

Accept yourself.

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Let’s start with basic. Creator of this world has created us uniquely. With unique features, unique souls. There should be some reason behind it. Don’t you think so??? Else he would have just done – Ctrl+a Ctrl+c Ctrl+v. Everyone look alike. Dah…!!! Then why do we not respect his decision. And accept ourselves completely. When I say ‘completely’ both bad as well as good. Strengths and weaknesses.
There are zillions of people out there. Not everyone is famous or successful and point to remember is not everyone is happy either. It’s totally ok to have flaws or weaknesses. As the famous dialogue from the famous series goes, “Wear your weakness like your armour. It can never be used to hurt you”. Flaunt your flaws honey. Be happy.
I see girls feeling bad about their curves. Some girls feel bad that don’t have any. Some wish for straight hair some for curly ones. Some are not happy with their skin condition/tone, many things. All thanks to the world who keeps on criticizing. But let me tell you, it is not important how the world sees us, what are the compliments we get or not get. What is important is, how do you think of yourself. I know I am not the ultimate beauty of the world. But in my world, I am. I am the princess of my own dream land. Not just a princess with great wardrobe, a warrior princess with a greater heart. So, what are you, through your eyes???

Be gentle with yourself.

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Everyone does mistakes. We all do. But hello, life doesn’t comes with a user manual either..!!! Make mistakes, explore… At least you will have something to say to your grand kids. Else you will bore them to hell saying – I used to wake up, go to work, pay my bills (kids are snoring…!!!!)
When you make mistakes, when you fail, let yourself cry. Let yourself calm down. DO NOT make any decisionwhile you are emotionally high. Especially the decision which might destroy you. Never. Would you do that to a small kid who just did a mistake??? No…! Then why you???

Spend time with yourself.

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What I happily called ‘Me Time’. Be comfortable with doing things alone. It might be getting a spa done at home, going for shopping alone, or asking yourself out for dinner date or a movie, walk to a garden, a solo ride or as simple as sitting idle for sometime in a day. This will make you realise what’s happening inside you. Inside your brain. How content and happy you are, what you need in life to be happy, who you really are.

Talk to yourself.

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Yes I am serious. How?? Just the way you talk to the people you love and care about. The way you ask them and make sure they are fine. Just make sure you ask yourself too. Sounds simpler???

See yourself from the eyes of someone who loves you.

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Best example I can give is parents, siblings(especially a sister. Because they are emotionally connected way more than a brother.) and of course through the eyes of your pets. Because especially for your pets, you are the ONLY world. Just think how much you are meant to them. For parents and sister, you are the ultimate treasure. When you have so much love to enjoy, is it really worth spending even a single second on opinion of those people who doesn’t even know you???

Set boundary.

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This we realise with time. Setting a healthy boundary to our emotions is mandatory. When we channel our emotions to a direction or towards a wrong person. We will be on a losing side, sooner or later. Because loving beyond ego is absolutely ok. But loving beyond your self respect is like letting yourself down. That too for nothing…!!! Na not a good sign for self love. Hence, make sure on whom you spend your time and emotions. This will keep yourself safe and happy in the long run.

Self learning and Self improvement.

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There is always(read it twice) scope for improvement for everyone of us in whatever we do. Accepting ones mistakes, giving your best to improve and slowly excel will definitely make you fall for yourselves even more. This will make yourself proud and happier.

Nurture a Hobby.

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Be it singing(Ahh you don’t have to be a great singer with sweetest voice, I am talking about hobby, not about participating in some singing competition. haha), dancing, writing, story telling, painting, craft and so on and on. Whatever it might be. Just make sure you do it frequently. Just to keep your self happy and to feel alive.

 

Instead of searching for love outside, fall in love with yourself because that’s the key to happiness…!!! 

 

 

My Favorite Quotes By Carrie Bradshaw

Hey,

If you are a fashionista or someone who love fashion you must know who Carrie Bradshaw is…!!!

If not, let me introduce her to you. She is one of the famous characters from the famous series ‘Se* and The City’. I am sure most of you know this. There are couple of movies are also made on the same name with same cast.

Every gal who loves fashion, dresses, shopping etc., will love this one gal from this series – Carrie.

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A true fashionista yet a sweet gal who believes in true love. But, I should mention – her love for fashion tops the game. Her closet is do die for. Her collection of dresses, shoes, bags… Ahhh even her keychain, is every gal’s dream…!!!

But don’t assume Carrie is just a living Brabie. With great fashion sense and amazing looks. She has a great view about life and love. Being an independent, 40+ aged , famous writer – she wins our heart with her charm.

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Carrie has some great quotes about fashion, love and life. They are epic…!!!! If you are her fan I know you will agree and I am sure you will never get bored of it. No matter for how many times you have read or heard those golden words. If you don’t know her dialogues, let me share some of my favorites with you. I am sure you will fall in love with them. Just like I did.

Fashion:

  • Ahhh It’s like Starting over all new…!!! New trends… New beginnings…!!!

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  • Can’t agree more…!!!

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  • Because of her I had to get an year subscription of the magazine – VOGUE…!!! Anddd its worth it…

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  • Are you a footwear lover??? You can relate to this for sure…!!!

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  • Outfit lovers…!!! This one is for you.

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  • One more…!!!

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  • Yessss…!!!!

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  • Pain that every shopaholic gal can relate to while shifting to new place…!!!!

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  • Oooo yaaaaa….

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  • Every girl’s wish…!!!!

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Love:

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  • In search of love and of course labels…!!!

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  • They say – you don’t think and fall in love… love just happens…

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  • But SELF LOVE comes first..!!!

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  • I love this.

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  • Someone…!!!

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  • I love this gal… Her words are just amazing…

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  • Who said relationship is a cake walk… We do have our set of heartbreaks…

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  • Whyyyyyy

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  • Keep your head up and keep going…

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  • haha

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  • Me Tooooo

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  • Crushes are the real reason why being single is not that hard…

  • haha

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  • Be proud to be a master piece… There is no fun in being just another copy… isn’t it???

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  • Someday…!!!

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  • A true Friendship is such a good healer…

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I love her fashion sense… Her closet… and most importantly her positivity… never ending hopes and believes about love and life…. !!!

Did you like her quotes??? Which one is your favorite??? Pick one and do let me know in the comments section…!!!

Have a great weekend…!!!!

Happy Friendship Day to Pure Hearted Friends…

Happy Friendship Day Everyone…!!!

World is celebrating friendship day with their human friends. Everyone has their praising words for friends. Even I have. Apart from some special human friends, I wanna tell you something about my super special friends…!!!

Who is a true friend???

True friends are those who never let’s you face problems alone. They wipe your tears and happiest when you are happy. They give their lives to save yours. They care and love… Never expect anything in return. They just listen to all your words… They might not reply but they never complain.

Do you have someone like this??? I have. touch wood

I’m blessed to have amazing parents who have gifted me a life with most amazing friends. touch wood

These special friends of mine, they don’t speak any of human languages. But we exchange words without speaking or listening. They have fur and paws. They are my most pawful friends. Yes my animal friends…!!!

If you give your heart to a human, no matter who he or she is, there are many chances they break it at some point of time. But, if you get in a sweet relationship with these furry friends, status of relationship will always be ‘committed’.

Today, on the occasion of friendship day I wanna tell you why friendship with furry friends is the best.

Read on,

  • If you have a pet, you get to experience a pure form of LOVE.
  • They don’t JUDGE you. No matter how poor or rich you are, for your pet you are his best friend. A perfect friend.

  • You might be just another friend for your friends, but for your paw friend, you are the only WORLD. **awww I have tears while writing this**
  • No matter how you look, for them you are their human. The most BEAUTIFUL human.

  • When you come back home, they don’t ask you how much you earn, what’s your designation is, what’s your marital status is. Na… They just wanna love you and need more and more CUDDLE.

  • The more you do good things for people, the more people expect. But these friends, give them little love, they will give their LIVES to you.
  • When you have pet around, you always feel safe at heart, feel wanted, feel ACCEPTED for what you are, feel confident. That’s why even science says, people with pets have less chances of getting depressed.

  • I have heard people not opting for animal adoption or giving up pet when they are planning for a kid. That’s the most stupid decision I can say. Because, apart from all above reasons, animals accept kids and love, PROTECT them like their own. They are best nannies you can ever find.

  • They do get bacterias from outside. But, it’s proved that it does INCREASE your immunity.

  • Best part of the day, coming back home. The way they welcome you… Trust me you forget all the tensions outside your door. When you enter home, you are your pet’s human. Nothing else. They feel so HAPPY and looking at them, you feel happy for your existence.

There are plenty of reasons why I love these pure hearted angels. If I keep writing, I can end up writing a huge book.

I am a proud mom of my cute kitty. I am sister to a dog (my mom is her mom so I’m her sister) and aunt to three kittens (my sis is their mom).***touch wood *** I  know it might sound crazy for you, if you are not a pet owner.

We, who have pets in their home, can relate to these. We don’t call our pet, a pet. We call them our child.

I must say one thing, if you have never adopted a pet, you are missing out a lot of pure happiness. If you are scared of animals, I would say be scared of only the most dangerous one of them all – human…!!

This friendship day, be a good friend to the furry angels around you… If you can’t afford to adopt one at home, Feed a stray dog or a cat… Start a new friendship… A piece of bread or a biscuit can change your life forever…!!!

Happy friendship day…!!!

Spread love… The world needs it more…!!!