Heard About Self Love? Here is How You Can Fall In Love With Yourself

A bad day at work.

As I am sitting here typing this, I have tears in my eyes which has almost dried. I am pretty sure by the time I reach next few paragraphs, it will be converted into a smile.

While I let myself cry out loud on some unpleasant days, I also make sure I analyse the situation, and apply this formula of 5. Just one simple question – Does this gonna effect you 5 years down the line??? If yes, work on it and give your best to make things work in your favor. If not, shut the f*ck off and smile. No point in shedding tears and ruining your eye makeup for some people who doesn’t even care. Simple.

While you are sad, it’s so important to talk to yourself and analyse. To calm yourself and clear your mind. Because trust me, if you keep depending on a person that he/she will cheer you up every damn time you are upset. Honey, you will be even more upset one day.

Why I am telling you all this is because is to let you guys know how important it is to maintain this one strong relationship with that one person who is ALWAYS with you in all your pain, sorrow, happiness, achievements, failures every little things you do in your life. For example right now, while reading this, you have that one person with you. Who??? Yourself.

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Some might find it funny. But like seriously, think about it. Were your parents by your side in ALL your pain??? I agree they are, in most of them. But come on, they are human beings too. They can’t be with you 24*7. Siblings?? friends??? Spouse(#besthubby)??? No…!!!! But you were there. Your heart, brain and of course your soul were with you. Still this relationship called ‘Self love’ is so underrated

Often self love is misinterpreted as selfishness, being self obsessed, self centric. No matter what they call it. I say it is a necessity to breath and live this one time offer called – life.

I often see ladies who transform so much post marriage that they are as if reborn. No offense, I know how dedicated we must be to play that role of a wife/mother/daughter in law. To work towards well being of your new family. I admire that. But I would admire you more if you not forget your best friend – You. Because I have heard, seen, experienced that losing yourself is the biggest loss. As much as you love falling in love with yourself, you will regret losing yourself.

Don’t agree??? Try it by yourself. 🙂

How to love one self???

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Well, this is something I can’t really make a list and give you. This is something you should cultivate within yourselves. Trust me when you fall in love with yourself, your world will be a happiest one. Your self confidence and esteem are boosted by this relationship.

I can tell you some tried and tested tips by me which might help you feel this kind of love.

No, I am not starting with ‘retail therapy’. Honestly, retail therapy is something I adore.(you guys know that shopaholic side of mine.) But the happiness you get by the things you buy lasts for shorter span. This helps you for a while but not forever. Buying stuffs and pampering yourself is considered as brownie points but not the ultimate trophy.

Umm.. what else can we do to fall in love with that super sincere person of yours???

Accept yourself.

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Let’s start with basic. Creator of this world has created us uniquely. With unique features, unique souls. There should be some reason behind it. Don’t you think so??? Else he would have just done – Ctrl+a Ctrl+c Ctrl+v. Everyone look alike. Dah…!!! Then why do we not respect his decision. And accept ourselves completely. When I say ‘completely’ both bad as well as good. Strengths and weaknesses.
There are zillions of people out there. Not everyone is famous or successful and point to remember is not everyone is happy either. It’s totally ok to have flaws or weaknesses. As the famous dialogue from the famous series goes, “Wear your weakness like your armour. It can never be used to hurt you”. Flaunt your flaws honey. Be happy.
I see girls feeling bad about their curves. Some girls feel bad that don’t have any. Some wish for straight hair some for curly ones. Some are not happy with their skin condition/tone, many things. All thanks to the world who keeps on criticizing. But let me tell you, it is not important how the world sees us, what are the compliments we get or not get. What is important is, how do you think of yourself. I know I am not the ultimate beauty of the world. But in my world, I am. I am the princess of my own dream land. Not just a princess with great wardrobe, a warrior princess with a greater heart. So, what are you, through your eyes???

Be gentle with yourself.

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Everyone does mistakes. We all do. But hello, life doesn’t comes with a user manual either..!!! Make mistakes, explore… At least you will have something to say to your grand kids. Else you will bore them to hell saying – I used to wake up, go to work, pay my bills (kids are snoring…!!!!)
When you make mistakes, when you fail, let yourself cry. Let yourself calm down. DO NOT make any decisionwhile you are emotionally high. Especially the decision which might destroy you. Never. Would you do that to a small kid who just did a mistake??? No…! Then why you???

Spend time with yourself.

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What I happily called ‘Me Time’. Be comfortable with doing things alone. It might be getting a spa done at home, going for shopping alone, or asking yourself out for dinner date or a movie, walk to a garden, a solo ride or as simple as sitting idle for sometime in a day. This will make you realise what’s happening inside you. Inside your brain. How content and happy you are, what you need in life to be happy, who you really are.

Talk to yourself.

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Yes I am serious. How?? Just the way you talk to the people you love and care about. The way you ask them and make sure they are fine. Just make sure you ask yourself too. Sounds simpler???

See yourself from the eyes of someone who loves you.

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Best example I can give is parents, siblings(especially a sister. Because they are emotionally connected way more than a brother.) and of course through the eyes of your pets. Because especially for your pets, you are the ONLY world. Just think how much you are meant to them. For parents and sister, you are the ultimate treasure. When you have so much love to enjoy, is it really worth spending even a single second on opinion of those people who doesn’t even know you???

Set boundary.

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This we realise with time. Setting a healthy boundary to our emotions is mandatory. When we channel our emotions to a direction or towards a wrong person. We will be on a losing side, sooner or later. Because loving beyond ego is absolutely ok. But loving beyond your self respect is like letting yourself down. That too for nothing…!!! Na not a good sign for self love. Hence, make sure on whom you spend your time and emotions. This will keep yourself safe and happy in the long run.

Self learning and Self improvement.

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There is always(read it twice) scope for improvement for everyone of us in whatever we do. Accepting ones mistakes, giving your best to improve and slowly excel will definitely make you fall for yourselves even more. This will make yourself proud and happier.

Nurture a Hobby.

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Be it singing(Ahh you don’t have to be a great singer with sweetest voice, I am talking about hobby, not about participating in some singing competition. haha), dancing, writing, story telling, painting, craft and so on and on. Whatever it might be. Just make sure you do it frequently. Just to keep your self happy and to feel alive.

 

Instead of searching for love outside, fall in love with yourself because that’s the key to happiness…!!! 

 

 

Simple Steps to Follow This Year, for Better Health and Beauty

Hellooo 2018,

Be awesome to everyone…!!!

Well, my pretty reader – since we are in a very new year, we all are energised, happy and hopeful for something good this year. Let’s take some steps to achieve the best of ourselves. Sounds good??? Cool. Lets do this.

I have a post for you today which will list down all the small yet good steps which we need to take in order to get the awesome results. You know you are not too old to dream a new dream and to set a new goal for yourself. right???  Try to include these steps  everyday. Come on, theses are very simple. You can do it. Or, let me rephrase it as – ‘We’  can do it.

Shall we start???

Health comes first. Lets start with easy breezy steps to improve health.

Physical Health Tips:

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  • Drink more water.( Don’t yawn plz. I know you have been reading this a lot. Its time to practice it)
  • Eat healthy. (Stop yawning)
  • Instead of asking you to eliminate junk food from your diet, let me put it this way. Lets challenge ourselves not to eat junk food for 2 days, then eventually increase that to a week, a month. I  myself a huge junk food addict. I have made my mind to train it by accepting such challenges. Hello, if I win??? I am gonna treat myself with some junk food. haha that is how we treat an addict.
  • Start your day with a glass of warm water and honey.
  • Are you a chocolate lover like me??? I am replacing my chocolates with dark chocolates. Because dark chocolates with more than 70% cocoa have more antioxidants. Are you with me in this ‘mission dark chocolate’???
  • Exercise. I am not asking you to pay for gym membership. We can do it right from where we are sitting. Just stretching, some leg exercises while you are seated on your chair, instead of taking elevator take stairs. I personally prefer stairs not only because its an easy workout, but its less crowded, peaceful and you get to breath some fresh air unlike in an elevator(you know what I mean).
  • Chew your food. Haha it sounds like a strict mommy’s dialogue. But jokes apart gal, we need to chew our food properly in order to ease the digestion process and to get more benefits from the food.
  • Brush your teeth twice daily. Oral health is very important. We tend to neglect that which results in bad breath and poor teeth condition. When all is good, we don’t get it. But when you suffer from teeth ache, then you realise all the bad things you did to your teeth. #karma haha
  • While Brushing, you can do some squats to utilize that time. Time saving huun??

Mental Health:

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If you agree or not, most of us are hesitant and ignorant about mental happiness. Let’s not make that mistake this year. Because everything starts and ends at your mental health. If you are mentally fit, it will reflect in your physical health.

  • Make some time for yourself. Spend it on doing what you like. Be it self care, any hobby, cooking any thing.
  • Take a walk outside. Observe the world around you. When you are feeling low, even a small ant can be inspiring enough to lift you up. Ant falls while carrying a food particle which is much more bigger than it’s own size. But ant never gives up.
  • Spend time with old citizens, kids or pets. They help you forget all the stress.
  • Compliment or help some unknown people. Try it. You will know that kind of happiness.
  • Dance to your favorite music. You don’t have to be a professional dancer to enjoy the music. Just move your body to the beats(or off beats) the point is to enjoy it.
  • Sing. You are not participating in any music competition. There are no judges. Even if the people around you is trying to judge you, just ask them one question – what is the winning amount ??? #wink
  • Stressed??? I have a quick solution – Breath…!!!
  • Plan a vacation with loved ones. Be it a little one or big plan. Do it.
  • As they say there is always good in a bad day. Write down things you are thankful for at the end of the day.
  • Reduce the time you spend in the virtual world of social media.
  • Importantly – Smilllleeeee…..!!!!

Beauty Resolutions:

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  • Take care of your skin.
  • Irrespective of weather, do not skip sunscreen.
  • Never go to bed with your makeup on. Plz.
  • I know we love our girl-friends. But plz stop sharing your makeup with them. You are not doing any good to yourself or to them. Sharing used makeup can harm your skin more.
  • Do not compromise on the products you use for your skin.
  • Maintain good hygiene to maintain good skin.
  • Clean your phone screen. It has maximum number of bacteria which can harm your skin.
  • Good sleep is a must.
  • You deserve a spa session at least once a month. You don’t have to make a hole in pocket by booking an appointment in a well known spa. You just make use of the ‘search’ box at the end of this page and get to know how to do facial, bath salts for that long relaxing bath, hair spa etc. at home…!!!
  • Most important tip – love yourself. You are an original creation. Do not try to imitate and be a copy.

So, these are some of the things lets try to implement in our daily routine.

PS: I have bought and customised a planner for 2018. Where I am goon keep track of the good and bad things I have been doing with my health and beauty.. You can try this method too to improve yourself easily.

 

 

 

 

 

My Special Birthday Gift from Someone Special

Helooooo,

It’s here… Finally it’s here… The day I keep waiting since the first day of the year… My birthday…!!! Yes it’s my birthday today. As you can see in my about section, I’m super girly and bollywood types when it comes to birthdays. Not only mine but everyone from my inner friend’s circle. I try my best to make them feel special in some way.

When I can take such an effort to make everyone happy. Don’t you think the one who is ALWAYS with me.. Who understands me more than anybody… Who takes efforts to pamper her close friends, deserve some pampering… I love myself… I think birthdays are the best days to feel myself the best in very special way. (PS: I make sure I feel special in someway everyday. After all, Mai apni favorite jo hoon… 😉 (I’m my own favorite))

So, this birthday I decided to buy that ring which I have been planning to buy since quite a long time. Almost every gal loves diamonds. Right??? Since I was caught up in my work at office, I couldn’t go to a jewelry shop to buy one. So bought it online from Ornate jewels, from whom I had purchased quite a few things last month. You can check my online shopping experience with Ornate jewels here.

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You might be thinking why a ring. As I had mentioned in some of my previous posts, I love accessories more than anything. Especially finger rings.

I’m super shopaholic. I live by the statement “If you can’t stop thinking about it, go and buy it”. This ring is something of that sort. I had seen this online a month back. I have been saving this for my special day. I’m glad I chose to buy it from Ornate.

I have seen many gals waiting for that perfect ring from a perfect guy. Well, I can guarantee that you will get that perfect ring one day but I can’t guarantee for the things which doesn’t exist. 😉

I believe we deserve every love we give to this world. The love we start receiving from the world the moment you start loving yourself. Instead of waiting for someone else to celebrate you, celebrate yourself. Everyday. Because gal, you deserve all the love and you are worth it.

Take yourself out for a nice dinner… A movie date with yourself… Gift yourself a spa session… Be creative, or be a lazy panda in your pajamas at home… In short – do whatever makes you happy.. 😉

Will spend the day in my style… After all its my day… My special day…!!!

PS: Self love is not selfish… It’s a necessity.

Love yourself…

Lots of love,
The Birthday Gal
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