While Fitting In The Classifications and Divisions of The World

While browsing through the Instagram feed I came across this beautiful video of two kids hugging each other. If you are thinking what’s so special about this video, do have a look at this video.

Isn’t it beautiful. This made me so happy and also think what we were when we were of that age.! I felt that we all were once a clean slate. Which is not so clean anymore..!!

Just think about it; when we were born, we have no tags attached, not even a name. With few minutes of our presence on this planet, we are given so many tags and norms to follow.

Firstly we were divided in terms of gender. If you are a boy you are expected to do certain things and if you are a girl you must obey and follow certain things. Each gender has do’s and don’ts to be ‘strictly’ followed to be on the good books of those 4 people (char log/ society).

Then we are given a name, that is not an interesting part. The interesting part here is the surname. Surname comes as a part of religion or the cast you belong to. It’s kind of an indicator of your whole family, religion etc. Needless to say, we were then divided based on religion. Umm that is not the end, it’s just a beginning. With every religion comes a number of castes. These castes are further divided into sub castes. Phew. You are supposed to follow certain customs and traditions that are attached with them.

There also a classification based on our skin colour. Some find fair skin beautiful. Some find Dusky skin gorgeous. There are people in the world who treats you based on your skin colour. Which is really unfortunate.

During the education we were divided into different categories. On a lighter note. like first bencher last bencher. Scholar, failure. We were also divided based on the stream we chose – science commerce arts etc.

Then comes the degree part. Where we decide what we want to be, in order to impress the society and parents. Also to make sure that our purpose of taking birth is fulfilled. Society divides us or we divide ourselves into the categories like engineers, doctors, architect, butcher, driver, house maker etc.

How can we forget money. I mean this is one thing that is driving us and the world crazy. This is something we all fight for and run the rat race for. Isn’t it. The amount of money one have can get him respect in the society. Even if you don’t agree with me right now deep down you know that’s true. If one has money he can escape all the crimes made and still be treated well out there.

Ahh I forgot one thing we are widely and popularly divided into – countries. Let’s not talk about the problems we have inside the country. Like the problems states of same country, have within each other. But, in the name of country we are forgetting one major thing that is humanity. We are fighting over countries. Killing innocent people and animals. This classification is really the worst of all.

Take a minute think about what you were and what have you become now. Weren’t we all happy kid, just like these kids in the video. Agree or no, the very reason this video went popular because the kids have different skin colour. Irrespective of that, they are so happy with each other’s company.! As you can see they are unaware of all the ‘classifications/ categories’ of the world. They are very happy to see each other and their just enjoying their lives, every moment.

Do you ever feel that life would be so simpler if we were as same as we were when we were born. Happy, innocent, curious and most importantly pure hearted. No negativity, no cruelty. Just happy and content.

I know people say that the world is cruel outside and you need to face the world you need to change and shape yourself in such a way that you to survive in this world. But tell me one thing, who is world? we are the world. We the human being, who are the most dominant creature on this earth are the significant part of the world. If we were kind to ourselves, to all the people out there, I don’t think there will be much negativity and cruelty left. I know it’s impossible to achieve but I really wish if we had a heart like a baby then our lives and most importantly this planet earth would be so much happier and safer place to live.

With amount of cruelty and bloodshed that is happening all over the world, love and kindness are what this world needs the most.

let’s be kind to ourselves to the world let’s stop criticizing or treating people based on their religion, caste, education qualification, occupation, economical status Let’s just accept people for their nature and good deeds. I hope we stop shedding blood in the name of religion, caste, country, instead we work towards welfare of our one common home – mother earth.


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Stop Asking Me When I Am Getting Married, I Don’t Ask When You Are Getting Divorced

Hello,

Today I happened to receive a message from a friend of mine with whom it was ages I had spoken to for the last time. I was naturally happy to hear from her. With all those ‘conversation starter questions’, she said “You have become a blogger… (didn’t even bothered to wait for my reply) so any plans on marriage? anything decided on that front?”

I happily thanked her for the compliment she gave for my blog and gracefully ignored the questions which popped later that. Because really?? Am I the ONLY one who is gonna ‘DECIDE’ on that front???

Since I have so many thoughts piled up in my head for sometime now, instead of answering these questions separately to all those who are curious , I thought of answering them in one shot.

PS: This is not at all personal. I am writing this calmly and with a wide smile on my face. Plus, this is not just about me. If you are on that side of the world, where you have been asked these questions on regular basis, you will understand each and every line of mine.

From,

All those girls who are happily single.

To,

All those who are married(you guys ask yourselves if you are happily married or  whatever.. it’s not my business anyways.)

I know, I know, there is a ‘specific age’ for marriage. What do you call that??? Umm ‘Right Age’, ‘Right Time’. What happens if we do not get married before or on ‘Right Time’??? Are we going to perish??? Are we going to be like ‘expired’ products???

I know your answer – “After right age, you won’t get a ‘Good Guy'”. Really???? I am glad you know what is good for me. Wait a second, do you??? Do you really know what is good for me??? More than my parents??? More than my own self??? slow clap

If you say a ‘good guy’ is with good looks and money let me tell you, honey, you are totally wrong. Why?? Let me explain.

As my dad rightly says – in the youth, even a donkey looks beautiful. But let’s talk about age after that. Your good looking guy will be a uncle. His six packs abs(if he really had before marriage) will be covered by layers of fat. As per ‘society standards’, he won’t fit in ‘Good Guy(uncle)’ category anymore. head bang Will you leave him???

As per as money is concerned. I know money gets you the respect and dignity in ‘society’. It gives you happiness when you shop, buy things you like, travel etc. If money is serving those purposes, why do you need a man then??? Earn money and spend it with dignity.

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When people meet it so sad and strange that they ask you about your job, marital status, kids blah and blah. Nobody really cares whether you are happy in your life…!!! In fact  they just try to suck out the happiness from life by bombarding such ‘personal’ questions. #TakeABreak

Unlike married lady, we can wake up when we like to. We can cook when we like to or just order pizza and just laze around like a panda. Singles can shop whenever they want instead of saving money for their unbuilt house and unborn kids(what they termed it as ‘future planning’). We can talk to whomever we want to because we don’t have that ‘special’ someone who will get jealous. Advantage lists goes on and on.

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I can hear you saying “In marriage you will have someone who will always be there for you” haha this makes me laugh out loud. Are you serious??? Does your partner really remember the reason you cried last time??? Was he really there every single time you were in need???  Oh come on, you are married to a human(I hope), not a vampire. Who can hear your heartbeats and come running towards you whenever you were in need.

To those who have not read my first lines of this letter, I am happy. I am very happy where I am right now. I know I am pretty, I am crazy to do things which makes my soul happy, I am independent enough to pay my own bills, strong enough to lift my own shopping bags, capable enough to make my family smile, and lovable enough to get so much love from people around me. I am complete by my own self. I don’t need a ‘husband/shona/baby’ to make me feel complete. If at all that is what makes you think marriage is a ‘need’…!!!

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Ahh.. I know gal need a man to feel dignified and protected in this society. DAH. If society doesn’t respect me only because I am single. Well, society, I don’t respect you either. About protection, I don’t think all men are gutsy enough to protect a gal. They don’t roam around with a cape on their back. Do they???

I often hear aunties saying “a woman is not complete until and unless she becomes a mother”. Hmm I have seen or read many incidents where a mother abandoned newborn kid, married women leaving their children as they ‘failed’ in their marriages. Does these women really counted as ‘Complete’???

Motherhood is a bliss. Its all about pure and unconditional love. Where you love a kid with all your heart and soul. You don’t really have to give that kid a place in your womb to be a mother. If your kid is in your heart forever, there you go – you are a sweet mommy. I have a kid too, who has four legs, who talks in different language which only I understand. I know the feeling of being mother. I enjoy the motherhood. So society, I don’t bother if you count me as a mother or not, I know I am the mom of my kiddo. Read it twice – “Anyone Can Give Birth, Not All Can Give A Life”.

I have seen people crying after marriages. They realise their mistakes when it’s too late. I don’t want to end up like them. Better to be ‘late’ to get married than being a ‘late’ in marriage while you are alive.

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I am not against marriage. Like every gal, I do want to get married. I do want those family pictures where I can see happiness in my parents’ eyes. I would love to see my baby sissy dolled up on my special day and introducing her brother in law to her friends happily. Day, when I look gorgeous than I have ever looked till date. I do want to see the love in my man’s eyes for me on that day and forever. I will get married when I get a mad fellow who is mad enough to do the crazy stuffs like I do. Enthusiast enough to plan random holidays. I will marry when I find the one who accepts me the way I am. Respects me and understand my passion. Who can make me smile even after a long hectic day. Who makes me feel home. Then I will definitely say – I do.

I won’t marry just because my happy single life is bothering you. Not just because clock is ticking. Not just because ‘good guys’ will be ‘sold out’. Definitely not because all my friends are getting married…!

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I will marry when I find the right person. Till then chill and let me chill. One more thing to make crystal clear, I am not a person who will hide this beautiful relationship of mine. When I will get married The World will know. 🙂

I know you are jealous of my freedom. But I can’t help honey. Keep burning and since that you are ‘blissfully’ married, take care of your #BestHubbyInTheWorld and #CutestBaby of yours, instead of bothering singles like me. #LiveAndLetLive.

🙂

Yours Not At All Sincerely,

Happily Single 🙂

 

 

 

 

A Letter to My Younger Self…

On this women’s day, apart from appreciating all those women who inspires me, I thought of writing a letter to the most special one of them all. Me. I guess we are our ultimate inspiring souls. No wonder people around us do inspire us. But the option to get inspired or to ignore is within us . If you chose to get inspired then a little credit should go to you as well. Isn’t it.

So here is the letter I have written about the things I want to say to my little self.

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Read on and once you finish reading, start writing a letter to your little self too. Come on, if you don’t love and appreciate yourself, who else will???

 

Hey Cute Little Pallavi,

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I’m your older self. I am happy to tell you that I have survived, survived without letting you down. Fought many battles of life to be what I’m today. These are the thoughts straight from my bag of experiences.

Your world includes your hero – your dad, your strict teacher – your mom and your bundle of happiness – your sister. You know what cherish this world. Because this will keep you grounded. The real ‘world’ out there is not as kind as this one, might not be as happy as this one, so if you have ‘your little world’ by your side, you don’t have to worry about anything.

Also, you will slowly realize everything. Your first friend papa, will always be your listening ear when you break down. Mom, whom you secretly hate for being strict, will be the ultimate love of your life. You will thank her the most for shaping you into a beautiful lady one day. Let me tell you one more secret, I know you love your play partner, your baby sister. But you know what, soon she will become your best friend for life. Right from sharing rooms to sharing darkest secrets, you will grow to be soul sisters. Love your family.

You know that little kid, your right hand, your cousin has become a handsome guy now. You know what will never change??? It’s the bond between you two. The bond of love. It will grow stronger day by day. Keep him by your side and in your heart forever.

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School, grades, marks cards – I know you don’t really worry as you are one of the coolest students. Haha. Lots of kisses to you for being one. Be cool. Because in life these things doesn’t really matter after some point of time. So breaking heads for grades is not worth.

I know how much you love dancing and all creative stuffs. Stick to that gal. Life and society will try their best to make you do what they want you to do. They try to take you away from these creative stuff to make you an engineer or doctor. But Pallavi, hobbies feed your soul, those things make you happy. So you know you should do what makes you happy. Right?

Talking about making happy, I know your ambition. To grow up and buy tons of chocolates to yourself. Hehe you will. Eat whatever you want. Don’t be behind diet and stuff to fit into the category of ‘ideal body’. Because there is no ideal body as such. While taking care of your health, be happy in your own skin. You are cute and you will grow up into a beautiful lady if you want to be.

Pets… Ahh they are part of your soul I know. Love them unconditionally just like they love us. Your peace and happiness lies in them. Remember that.

You love traveling on bikes with your daddy dearest. I can see that happiness when you sit on his bike in front. Your smile is infectious. Never let this world change that. When you grow old, amidst all chaos it’s ok to feel lost sometime. Do not panic. When you feel lost, just go on a short trip. The cool breeze, the silence away from the city will make you find yourself.

Apart from knowing your strength, it’s more important to know your weaknesses. You love your own space. You take time to Know people. That’s absolutely ok. Once you like someone, you care for them way too much. Sometimes more than they deserve. My dear little self, choose wisely. On whom you are spending your care, love and time. Because those are very precious. I am sure life and time will be the ultimate teachers for you. You will be wise enough to learn these things eventually.

Now the serious point I want to tell you.

Being a gal seems so girly, colorful and beautiful now, when you are a little princess. But being a queen doesn’t comes easy. You will be judged for all your actions. You will be criticized. There will be tons of restrictions. Hell lot of expectations from you. I can hear you asking me that with a shaking voice, “who does that?”. Well, society. But you don’t have to worry. Let me tell you how to tackle this. It’s simple -DONT CARE.

Do what you like, live the way you want to, fall in love, fall out of love, make mistakes, don’t regret, instead learn from your mistakes, get tattooed I know you love them, eat your favorite food without worrying about the calories you gain, earn money to spend it, wear what you are comfortable in, dance, sing, write, travel, be a mom of a pet, live alone or with friends as you wish, choose a fast life or a slow one make sure you are happy because sweetie you will be judged anyways so instead of living a boring life, give those aunties some reason to talk about. Haha

As you grow older, you might start taking life seriously. Little one, don’t do that. The more you take life seriously the more you will be screwed. Just be free, crazy and silly I know how notorious you are. Don’t lose that, don’t become a boring Pallavi. Haha I know it doesn’t go well. So be who you are. But never waste time proving that to people out there.

Just like mom found dad, you will find someone one day. Have patience. Do not hurry to get married. Because you don’t want to end up creating a mess. Do not get married because someone says you to, don’t get married because of age, don’t get married because someone else did. Get married when you find the one with whom you can be friends for life. With whom you can dance, sing, eat chocolates, ride bikes, do crazy stuffs.

Lastly, dear little Pallavi,

Life is tough and so are you. Life is beautiful and so are you.

Be kind, spread love, don’t waste it on wrong people and don’t waste time proving how good you are.

Believe in karma. What you give, comes back to you.

Do good to feel good. When you are in need, something good happens to you. That’s the magic of karma.

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Smile…. You will get your teeth back soon. Smile even when you don’t have one.

Keep this innocence intact. It’s challenging with time but not impossible.

I wish I could hug you right now for being such an amazing gal you are…. 😘😘😘

Miss you little Pallavi,

Yours lovingly,

Grown-up Pallavi

 

Now, it’s your turn to write a letter for your young self…!!!

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Happy Women’s day…!!!

 

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